The all or nothing phenomenon
Amidst our busy day today we carved out time for staff lunch and today I posed a discussion topic that was interesting. I knew I'd be preaching to the choir and we'd all be in agreement.
I've noticed a pattern with many people these days that when one member of the family is sick or away on business, the other members of the family take that as reason to stay home from church. Consider these scenarios that are completely fictional. I'm not speaking of anyone who wasn't there this past Sunday. Please don't wonder, "who's she talking about?" I'm talking purely in general terms here about what I see as a widespread happening.
Scenario 1: Husband goes on business trip on the weekend. Wife and kids who are still home don't go to church for this reason.
Scenario 2: Mr. and Mrs. Jones have three kids. Four out of five family members are feeling just fine, however one child is sick. Mrs. Jones plans to stay home from church to take care of said child. Instead of bringing the other two and coming to church, Mr. Jones just stays home.
Scenario 3: Mr. Jones has a cold. He is not terribly ill where he can't care for himself, he's just sneezing a lot and his head feels clogged up. So he decides to stay home from church. Mrs. Jones decides to just stay home with him and the three kids, even though they are all old enough to completely get themselves ready for church.
Has anybody else noticed this phenomenon? I will call it the "all or nothing phenomenon". Meaning, either all the family members are going to come to church, or none of them will.
It's very odd to me. I wasn't raised that way, nor have we raised our family that way so it's very hard for me to understand the behavior or way of thinking behind it. In times past I actually experienced it (with nightmare staff) where if the pastor-husband was away at a conference or missions trip, the wife would stay home with the kids and not come to church. For those who say, "it's too hard for them to bring the kids on their own, I just ask...what do you think single mothers or fathers do all the time? Doing it for one week is a piece of cake compared to what these folks do.
I am just curious about what my readers think...