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3 Things You Have to Face to (Successfully) Get Through Change


Are you throwing away your choices?  You do have to go through change whether you like it or not, but you have a choice as to how you're going to respond. 

If you listen to a word I'm saying today here on post please listen to this:

You. Are. Not. Powerless.

Okay, that was four words.

But they were powerful words.

There are three reasons I believe change is harder for some people:

1) They are afraid of what people might think.
2) They are afraid of what people might say.
3) They are afraid of what people might do.

So they just let change relentlessly beat them up, with no counter-response to the change that has been thrust upon them.
 
So, are you ready to move through change and do more than just survive? Then you're going to have to stop being paralyzed by those three things and take whatever counter-steps you need to make for your emotional health. You've got to manage your health in the midst of whatever change you're going through.  No one else can do this for you.

When change comes, you always have choices. Here's the hard truth, my friend...sometimes your answer is just a hard but healthy counter-choice, waiting to be made.

You are not powerless but exercising your power does entail overcoming the three fears.

I believe in you. You can do this. 

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