1) Define the emotion.
What am I feeling?
Why do I feel this way?
2) Recognize the source.
When did I first feel this way?
When have I felt this way before?
3) Uncover the lie
What feels true about this?
What do I believe about myself?
4) Embrace the truth
Jesus, bring truth and light to this place. Lord, what is it that You want me to see, hear and know?
Jesus, come into this place of pain.
I take time to write out everything (for my eyes only) about any situation I'm feeling an overwhelming negative emotions about.
Maybe you have some things like that too.
When you uncover the lie, you are pinpointing anything you've come to believe about a past situation that is not in line with God's Word.
When you embrace the truth, you are zeroing in on what God tells you about the situation, versus the lie you have believed.
For instance, if you were abused, neglected or abandoned, perhaps you came to believe that you deserved it in some way, or even caused it. Maybe you believe that God didn't care. Perhaps you doubt God's love for you because these traumatic things have happened. These are lies the enemy wants you to believe.
What does God's Word say? Replace those lies with the truth of His Word. Then pray through on it. You may want to ask a few people to join you to pray through on it as you invite the Lord to shed His light (His truth) on your situation.
The counselor gave me one of her business cards, with the 4 steps glued on the back. I made cards like this for our church, utilizing our church business card and putting the four steps on the back.
I made them for our church using size 10 font, and cut them out and then put them on the back of a business card using a glue stick. I'm also keeping extras in my purse for when I might be ministering to someone and share the 4 Steps and need one to give them.
I will share with you more about this tomorrow. In the meantime maybe you have some writing to do...