Skip to main content

An abused woman shares:
What to take with you when you escape


I'm honored to feature another guest post from Karen* today, concerning what she would like women to know if they are planning on leaving their abuser.  Be blessed by her wisdom. 




I am following yesterday's post with a list of much needed items for our escape.  I've also included people you should contact just prior to your escape.  I did not take everything listed, but wish I had.  May my experience be your best teacher.

If you know where you are going, visit your local post office to have all mail forwarded.

Visit your bank to close out your account and any accounts of your children.

Once you are at your destination, visit your local police and explain your situation.

Take money ---cash.  Once you are gone, your joint accounts will be closed.  Also, if you go into hiding, you do not want anything that can be traced.

Take your:

Medicine and prescriptions, including eyeglass prescriptions
Charged cell phone and charger
Birth certificates
Social Security cards
Spouse's recent pay stubs
Marriage license
Mortgage or deed for property
Prior federal income tax forms
Your life insurance policy
Clothes- for the current season
Small entertainment for children
Photos that can fit in a gallon ziploc
Address and email book
Fruit and snacks to reach destination
Basically anything that you cannot live without.
 
Remember that you will not be returning.
Do not take things that can easily be replaced.  
Do not take all your clothing, just enough to get you through a week or two. 

Remember that when you get a driver's license, your address will probably go on the internet.  Keep your name out of print as much as possible.  The church of the family that helped us was located because their names were on an online church bulletin. 

The priority in any situation is safety.  If you must, leave all behind to escape to safety.  If you are considering leaving your abuser, contact your local shelter.  They can offer advice and even a safe house for you and your children.  Above all, pray, depending on God for wisdom and strength. 
Remember that you are beloved of God and He never created you for this.
  




*name has been changed

Comments

Anonymous said…
No, "He never created us for this."
I praise God that my second marriage is so sweetly scented with God through and through. The first marriage was filled with emotional and mental abuse and on its way to physical harm when I got out.
I am grateful, so grateful.
~ linda
Karen said…
I am praying that some day, God might bless me as He has you..with one who really loves and adores. So happy you have shared a bit of your happiness.

Popular posts from this blog

Relevant Church doing something...

incredibly RELEVANT!

I just heard some news today that really inspired me. A church here in Tampa, Relevant Church is doing a new thing this month called the "30 Days Sex Challenge." (I've never visited the church but Pastor Trinity - our children's pastor - has visited or has met some people from this church and he was very impressed.) Realizing that this is a major element missing from some marriages (the frequency factor) their lead pastor, Paul Wirth, has issued a challenge for all the married couples to have sex for 30 days in a row. At the same time he has issued a challenge for all unmarrieds to completely abstain from sex. Of course we know the Bible says that those who are unmarried should not have sex in the first place but the point is, a lot of unmarried's aren't obeying the Lord's command to abstain and this is just one pastor's way of trying to get them to see that indeed, there is a better way! (God's way!) At the same time, many married couples are no

This Could Have Ruined Everything... (But It Didn't!)

 No one would ever guess what happened to me this weekend in Jacksonville, Florida...so I'm going to tell you. :) As I was preaching at the Fearless Tour at New Hope Assembly of God this weekend,  I got choked up, literally. For probably 2-3 minutes I coughed profusely and greatly struggled. Then I drank some water and kept preaching. Everyone was gracious to give me a few moments to get my bearings. If you were there, you'll remember it! What no one realized at the time was that I swallowed a bug that flew right in while I was preaching! So disgusting! I said nothing because I was at a point in the sermon where I was really connecting and I knew if I said, "I swallowed a bug," everyone would either laugh profusely or be really concerned, or start feeling sorry for me.  And at that point whey wouldn't be thinking about the message anymore, but the fact that I had just swallowed a bug. They would then imagine what it would be like, and feel grossed out which

Why You Should Never Hijack a Comment Thread
Social media etiquette 101

One surefire way to kill your influence in social media and wear out your welcome fast is to become involved in derailing somebody’s comment thread with your own agenda. Networking and hijacking aren’t the same thing. It’s surprising how many people don’t understand that this is a guarantee for tearing down a platform as quickly as you build it. Passion is good, even necessary. I appreciate people's zeal for their personal core values. What is not appreciated is the attempt at a redirection of a comment thread when the comment has little or nothing to do with an original post or is twisted at best. Social media provides ample opportunity for all of us to share what’s important to us on our own platform. Eliciting others’ responses and developing connections largely depends on our ability to communicate and compel. Some people are open to receiving private communication from others although they aren’t always able to answer personally or at length. But hijacking a comment threa