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An abused woman shares:
What to take with you when you escape


I'm honored to feature another guest post from Karen* today, concerning what she would like women to know if they are planning on leaving their abuser.  Be blessed by her wisdom. 




I am following yesterday's post with a list of much needed items for our escape.  I've also included people you should contact just prior to your escape.  I did not take everything listed, but wish I had.  May my experience be your best teacher.

If you know where you are going, visit your local post office to have all mail forwarded.

Visit your bank to close out your account and any accounts of your children.

Once you are at your destination, visit your local police and explain your situation.

Take money ---cash.  Once you are gone, your joint accounts will be closed.  Also, if you go into hiding, you do not want anything that can be traced.

Take your:

Medicine and prescriptions, including eyeglass prescriptions
Charged cell phone and charger
Birth certificates
Social Security cards
Spouse's recent pay stubs
Marriage license
Mortgage or deed for property
Prior federal income tax forms
Your life insurance policy
Clothes- for the current season
Small entertainment for children
Photos that can fit in a gallon ziploc
Address and email book
Fruit and snacks to reach destination
Basically anything that you cannot live without.
 
Remember that you will not be returning.
Do not take things that can easily be replaced.  
Do not take all your clothing, just enough to get you through a week or two. 

Remember that when you get a driver's license, your address will probably go on the internet.  Keep your name out of print as much as possible.  The church of the family that helped us was located because their names were on an online church bulletin. 

The priority in any situation is safety.  If you must, leave all behind to escape to safety.  If you are considering leaving your abuser, contact your local shelter.  They can offer advice and even a safe house for you and your children.  Above all, pray, depending on God for wisdom and strength. 
Remember that you are beloved of God and He never created you for this.
  




*name has been changed

Comments

Anonymous said…
No, "He never created us for this."
I praise God that my second marriage is so sweetly scented with God through and through. The first marriage was filled with emotional and mental abuse and on its way to physical harm when I got out.
I am grateful, so grateful.
~ linda
Karen said…
I am praying that some day, God might bless me as He has you..with one who really loves and adores. So happy you have shared a bit of your happiness.

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