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Blonde, tan and skinny

"Have you ever noticed that when many women get divorced,  they suddenly decide to become skinny and tan?"  This was something my friend Pastor Andrea Fruscella said to me one day and she has written about it in some articles.  I believe her point  in writing about this or her question was why women would suddenly think to make doing this a priority if they never did when they were married.

I have noticed this same phenomenon.  I've taken note as well that many seem to color their hair to go with this transformation -- usually blonde. 

Important Disclaimer:  I know this is NOT the case with all separated/divorced women.  So before all the number of my dear friends in this category rise up and comment, "NOT ME!  ARE YOU KIDDING??" and rake me over the coals,  let me say I realize that millions are not doing this.  However, scores of others are.  I've noticed some interesting patterns on facebook.  Some new status updates usually begin with many women in these situations and they go something like this:

"I've never been loved like this before."


"He makes me feel so special."


"He completes me..."

Status updates are peppered with talk of dates with the special new man, sometimes little jabs about how differently HE treats her than the ex did, lots of photos of the new "bombshell" beside their new man, and so on...

There's nothing wrong with changing your appearance.  I do it every month, just ask my church people.  They joke, "If you've only seen one shade of Pastor Deanna's hair you're definitely a newcomer."  Ha! Ha!   And as for my friend Andrea?  Well, she's blonde, tan, and absolutely gorgeous!!! LOL (Also happily married to the same man for many years!)  Mine and Andrea's observations have to do with timing and motivation, not right and wrong.

What is my point today?  No, I'm not hating on women who are blonde, thin, tan and beautiful.  I'd lose a lot of my dear friends if that were the case.  My point is that I believe we have millions of women desperately longing to be filled who need to not only read but experience John 4 for themselves.  Like the woman at the well with five husbands and a boyfriend they desperately grab at things to try to fulfill.  The things of the world or externals like dieting or tanning or hair color or a new boyfriend/husband are like the water spoken of in John 4:13 and 14:

"Jesus replied, “Anyone who drinks this water will soon become thirsty again.  But those who drink the water I give will never be thirsty again. It becomes a fresh, bubbling spring within them, giving them eternal life.”

My message is that only Jesus will make you never thirst again.  
Not a new body.
Not a darker body.
Not a different hairstyle.
Not a new man!


Only Jesus can satisfy.
He is the man who will truly love you like never before, make you feel so special and complete you.

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