Skip to main content

Okay is Bleeechhh.


I hate okay.

Okay reeks of mediocrity.


"Did you like that restaurant?"

"It was okay."

"How was the concert?"

"It was okay."

Yeah....not appealing.

Who wants their husband to say, “My wife is.....okay?”
I want Larry to say, “My wife is amazing. She is all that. She’s the best thing ever.”


Not, “She’s okay.” 
He may as well say, “My wife is hell."

Over the years I've asked Larry what I could do to better meet his needs.

Sometimes I've failed but I hope I've succeeded more.

I don’t want my kids to say, “My mom’s okay.”
I want them to say, “She’s the best mom ever. “

My amazzzzzinggggggg kids, Christmas Day 2012
About ten years ago, I asked all my kids  to give me a grade on being a mom. I believe evaluation is very important to improvement in every area of our life, including marriage and family.

Two of my kids gave me an A. One kid gave me an F. 

Yes, an "F".

I failed. 

 Now, I could have said, “Ahhhh…it’s just sour grapes because I've disciplined them a little more than the other two lately.” But I think it’s important to listen to your kids and find out why they feel the way they do. So I said,  "How did I get this F, and how can I bring up the grade?" 

The child shared with me some ways they felt I was not meeting their needs. Moms are supposed to meet needs, you know. We may not be able to provide all of a child's wants, nor might it be wise to, but caring about their needs is very important. 
I listened closely. Took notes. Thought of some areas I may not have listened enough or been attentive enough. Then took some steps to improve things. Our relationship got closer. Over the years they became the child who seems to sing my praises the most. I don’t do things so my children will give accolades, but my point is, I don’t want to be just an okay mom.

I don’t want to be an okay anything.

What about you? Are you content with okay, or striving for more? Are you open to evaluation to get there? 

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Relevant Church doing something...

incredibly RELEVANT!

I just heard some news today that really inspired me. A church here in Tampa, Relevant Church is doing a new thing this month called the "30 Days Sex Challenge." (I've never visited the church but Pastor Trinity - our children's pastor - has visited or has met some people from this church and he was very impressed.) Realizing that this is a major element missing from some marriages (the frequency factor) their lead pastor, Paul Wirth, has issued a challenge for all the married couples to have sex for 30 days in a row. At the same time he has issued a challenge for all unmarrieds to completely abstain from sex. Of course we know the Bible says that those who are unmarried should not have sex in the first place but the point is, a lot of unmarried's aren't obeying the Lord's command to abstain and this is just one pastor's way of trying to get them to see that indeed, there is a better way! (God's way!) At the same time, many married couples are no

What Verbal Abuse is Really Like, and Why We Must Care
Guest Post: Terri von Wood

In my speaking travels, I meet the most amazing people. Some are connections that go beyond just a night or a weekend of preac hing. One day on my journey, I met Terri von Wood, and we immediately clicked and have been friends ever since.  Just a reminder that all of our guest bloggers this week are available to chat with you in the comment section here on the blog or on my facebook page where the blog is also published.   *** People who have never suffered through or witnessed abuse (including pastors) often don't know how to help women in abusive situations. Knowledge is power and it is my belief that if the church understood the prevalence of abuse, help would be made available.  First, we must acknowledge that the divorce rate is the same  in the church as in the world.  Second, we must understand that the 50% divorce rate does not include all the women who are abused but stay because they do not know what else to do or do not have anyone to turn to.  If those women we

I am a Spiritual Abuse Survivor
Guest Post: Leanne Weber

I met Leanne Weber years ago through Pastoring Partners Network . She now serves as one of our amazing PPN writers. Back when I first met her she was pastoring and in the midst of an abusive church situation. I as well as several of our other leaders at PPN walked through that painful journey with her and observed her as she went from hurting to whole. She's got an amazing story to share and the following is just part of it. Just a reminder that all of our guest bloggers this week are available to chat with you in the comment section here on the blog or on my facebook page where the blog is also published.             I am a certifiable mess right now. I cannot get any work done, because I don't even want to be here. I am just...tired. I am tired of dealing with church people. If I was truly called, then I'd be able to handle this. I am sick of the only thing keeping me here being the fact that we have bills to pay, and we are finally in a place where we are fi