Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Okay is Bleeechhh.


I hate okay.

Okay reeks of mediocrity.


"Did you like that restaurant?"

"It was okay."

"How was the concert?"

"It was okay."

Yeah....not appealing.

Who wants their husband to say, “My wife is.....okay?”
I want Larry to say, “My wife is amazing. She is all that. She’s the best thing ever.”


Not, “She’s okay.” 
He may as well say, “My wife is hell."

Over the years I've asked Larry what I could do to better meet his needs.

Sometimes I've failed but I hope I've succeeded more.

I don’t want my kids to say, “My mom’s okay.”
I want them to say, “She’s the best mom ever. “

My amazzzzzinggggggg kids, Christmas Day 2012
About ten years ago, I asked all my kids  to give me a grade on being a mom. I believe evaluation is very important to improvement in every area of our life, including marriage and family.

Two of my kids gave me an A. One kid gave me an F. 

Yes, an "F".

I failed. 

 Now, I could have said, “Ahhhh…it’s just sour grapes because I've disciplined them a little more than the other two lately.” But I think it’s important to listen to your kids and find out why they feel the way they do. So I said,  "How did I get this F, and how can I bring up the grade?" 

The child shared with me some ways they felt I was not meeting their needs. Moms are supposed to meet needs, you know. We may not be able to provide all of a child's wants, nor might it be wise to, but caring about their needs is very important. 
I listened closely. Took notes. Thought of some areas I may not have listened enough or been attentive enough. Then took some steps to improve things. Our relationship got closer. Over the years they became the child who seems to sing my praises the most. I don’t do things so my children will give accolades, but my point is, I don’t want to be just an okay mom.

I don’t want to be an okay anything.

What about you? Are you content with okay, or striving for more? Are you open to evaluation to get there? 

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