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3 Things I'm Learning


I've been concentrating on these the past five months or so:


1) Limiting "work on me" to one big thing at a time.

I used to try to work on everything about myself at once that needed an overhaul, and it didn't go so well.

I'm learning the value of one-thing-at-a-time.

There are issues in my life that need major work that I haven't even started on yet. The past five months have been an invaluable lesson I will never forget, most of it focused on one area. When mastered it will hopefully be something retained for life.

I get to choose who I'm going to be. How great is that?

2) Being kind to me as work on me.

Every day I notice the parts of me that still need work. I don't like those things about myself. But I know they didn't get that way overnight and they aren't going to change overnight.

I could hate myself.
Talk trash to myself.
But what good does it do?
It just makes it worse.

I'm a human being, with faults and frailties and now choose to extend the grace to myself that I've often given others but lacked giving myself.

3) Being kind to others as I work on me.
 
Allowing God to do a deep work in your heart is like being on the operating table. It's not fun at times. On some occasions, I get frustrated in the midst of that and fail to treat others with grace. With God's help, I'm trying to also be kind to other people in the midst of it.

Here's to another year, and changes made for the better.

 

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