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Seriously now...


I am so tired of this mentality, I must speak to it.

This is making fun of the typical sayings such as: "I complained that I had no shoes until I met a man with no feet."

I understand this line of thinking, especially after traveling and ministering in third world countries. The fact that the place I'm staying at doesn't have WIFI is a relatively small problem in comparison to the fact that many of my friends don't have water. I get it!


What bothers me about this is when it's used in a dismissive manner. You know, the attitude of, "build a bridge and get over it...we don't care about or want to hear about your pain. It's nothing compared to others!"   


The reality is that everyone's pain is their reality.
And more important -- IT MATTERS TO GOD.

If it matters to us, it matters to God.

If you've ever been in the hospital and had surgery or given birth you know it's common for a nurse to come in and ask, "On a scale of one to ten, how would you describe the level of pain you're feeling right now?"

Once you answer, adjustments can be made for your pain management.

When you are any type of pain, God cares whether you're at a "2" or a "10."

When people give us a clue about their pain, we should care too.

Dismissive messages are not cool. Not cool at all.

 

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