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Why Less is More When It Comes to New Year's Resolutions

New Year's resolutions have always been something I've done each year.  I journal, make lists and arrive at my goals for the coming year with a lot of introspection and forethought.


This year, I've really streamlined things in an effort to simplify. By simplify I don't infer slacking or scaling back on my dreams. 

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I learned some huge lessons in 2012, one of which is this:

"You can make many plans, but the LORD's purpose will prevail." Proverbs 19:21

Last year I set mammoth goals.

Some of them, I reached. Victory was sweet. I love success.

With other goals, I fell flat on my face.  

 I learned a lot, though. And, I've tried to remember, I never have to "fail" again as long as I learn. When we take situations and learn from them, there's no failure, only learning. And, learning is good!

With less goals, I hope to reach more as well as have plenty of available margin for God to surprise me.

This time last year when I developed my goals, I had no interest in having my own adoption blog. The thought of that would have scared me to pieces.

This time last year when I wrote my new year's resolutions I had no intentions of being the spirituality columnist at Lost Daughters. I began reading there in October of 2011, to receive help I was looking for. I had a desire to read and to connect with others, but I never thought that I'd write there.

As the year unfolded, God surprised me, big time. He led me on a path I never imagined that is more fulfilling than I would have dreamed for myself.

I had a lot of plans in my heart going into 2012, but I'm so glad God's purpose prevailed, not mine.

So friends, as you finish up your new year's resolutions for 2013, be sure to leave room for God to surprise you.

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