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Your Marriage: Living a Honeymoon All the Time



This is Larry and I on our honeymoon in Hawaii, 25 years ago.

Look how white I am, even after spending a week there. How did I go to Hawaii and stay this white? It may have had something to do with rarely being out of our hotel room.

And look how tired my husband looks! Ha ha!

I hope my husband is always a little tired in the right kind of way.

Today I want to share with you how you can live a perpetual honeymoon. 

Plan for it

You'll never achieve what you don't pursue. If you want your marriage to stay hot, plan for it to. Do what it takes to get it there and keep it there. Some people believe this takes all the fun out of it. On the contrary, it lights the spark more. 

Prioritize it

Women often mention the many roadblocks to romance and sex in their marriage. There are the needs of their children, bills to pay, being tired from working so much, and lots more. The truth is, we often begin to think those things are more important and assign low priority to loving our spouse because we think they'll understand or wait. WRONG.

Or we believe since romance or sex are just pleasure we're missing out on, it's not that important. WRONG.

Why are we so quick to give up the pleasure in our marriage? Really folks, that makes no sense.

Here's truth: 99% of things in our life are energy zapping, not energy producing. Most things take from us all day long, but a spouse is designed by God to have energy producing capabilities. We receive this benefit when we just take time with one another that God intends for us to have.

When Larry and I spend time giving affection and romance and intimacy in general, it gives energy we didn't have before, to handle situations with the kids, the church, or pay the bills.

Persevere

Everything will get in the way. Everything. The devil will see to that, I guarantee it! You've got to be ruthless with distractions that threaten to sidetrack  your perpetual honeymoon. Larry and I are on a cruise this week and believe me, it'll be just like a honeymoon for us, but the truth is, we live one at home. Our relationship is worth juggling whatever we have to do, in order to make an on-going honeymoon possible.

It's worth going through the calendar together to set up date nights.
It's worth giving up a TV  show to spend intimate time together instead.
It's worth financially planning for date nights or following through.
It's worth persevering to do something even when no money is available.
It's worth setting healthy boundaries so nothing interferes with our special times.

You can live a honeymoon all the time. Just make a decision to, and follow through.

 

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