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What If We All Did This With Our Spouse Every Day?


Let's dream together...

What if we all managed to show our husband or wife in just one way, every day, how much we love them? It wouldn't always have to be something big or dramatic. Although on occasion, big and dramatic is good. On most days, it could be as simple as bringing them a cup of coffee in bed, or warming up the car before they get in it (or cooling it down if you live in Florida). Perhaps it would mean taking initiative to do a chore for them that they absolutely hate to do. Or maybe making time to join them in the shower before work? Just imagine...what if? What if we all did at least one thing each day?

The awesome thing is, we don't have to stop at dreaming...this can be our reality.

 Recently I blogged about how to get through to your spouse when nothing else is working. I shared about appealing to their five senses in communicating.  A reader mentioned the book The Five Love Languages in the comments of the post. I love the book and highly recommend it. There are many ways to reach your husband or wife's heart. What have you tried lately?  

Doing something special for them everyday is great even when you're not experiencing difficulties in your relationship. In fact, if you make a habit of reaching out to them in a special way every day, hopefully you'll have a lot less than needs to be fixed.

Today is a day I'm definitely not going to miss, in being a blessing to my man. It's his birthday. I'm so blessed that God gave Larry to the world, and to me.

On his birthday I usually make carrot cake which is his favorite. I've finally got this recipe down to perfection and  it always means a lot to him when I make it. This is the photo from his family birthday dinner here at home, last year. 


This year I was ready to try something different, yet meaningful. I remembered that he shared with me that as a child his favorite pie was butterscotch with meringue topping. In all the years we've been married, I only remember him having this treat a few times. An elderly lady, Lois Dye, from our church in Ohio where we were youth pastors, would make him butterscotch pies topped with meringue and bring them to church. It was her specialty and my husband always appreciated it so much.

I don't consider myself a baker. I'm a really good cook or so they say. Whipping up dinners for small or large groups or doing events with things like appetizers are things I do well. Occasionally I'll delve into the realm of cake making or desserts and I do alright it's just not my forte. But I really want to bless my husband. So, I decided to try to make the pie.

I researched a bunch of recipes and found one that was given five stars by everyone who tried it.

My results were a perfect meringue:






And the inside wasn't bad either!


He seemed to really enjoy it, but I'll have to see whether he wants this again or the carrot cake. Or maybe both!

Whatever he'd like is what I'd like to give him.

Savanna and I also have another little surprise up our sleeve for him today. Can't wait!

Happy birthday babe...you're the best.  I thank God for you and want to be a blessing to you, all the days of your life.


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