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Thank Your Way To A Better Marriage

So this month a lot of my friends are doing the "30 Days of Thanksgiving" on Facebook and I've jumped on the bandwagon. It's cool to pick something to be particularly thankful each day and share it. I love doing that even when it's not November.

I realized a long time ago that my marriage improved a lot when I was grateful. I'm telling you that even if you're in a rough patch in your relationship, there is something to be grateful for. If you don't know what it is, ask me. I dare you. I'll help you uncover something to be thankful for in what you may believe is a pathetic marriage. Sometimes all you need is a tweak in your perspective.

How about starting with your husband or wife's work? Significant time is spent on our work. We all derive value from what we do. So zero in on this sensitive area, and be a blessing to your mate.

Try this: "Thanks babe, for how hard you work for our family. It means so much."

[Please. Stop with the thoughts that you don't need to thank them because you work too and nobody's thanking you. Of course you're important. And of course you work hard. But right  now in this moment,  thank them regardless of whether they recently -- or have ever,  thanked you. Somebody's gotta step up and start giving thanks. Let it be you.]

"Thanks honey, for how you make me feel special by taking time to ________________________."

"Sweetheart, it means the world to me when you _______________________________________."

"You'll never realize how grateful I am that you ________________________________________."

Think.

Think large. Think small. Think everything in between, and give thanks.

I realize we're headed for Thanksgiving Thursday, but today I want to share a gift I gave Larry on Valentines Day a few years ago. I compiled a written piece about things I'm so thankful for, about him. I added some photos, printed it out and framed it for his office. He treasures it. As he works, it's right there beside him to remind him of just a few of the reasons I'm still madly in love with him. (Just click to enlarge it.)



You could do this for your husband or wife for any holiday. Thanks is always in style and what could be greater than thanking your way to the next level of wedded bliss?

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