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3 Ingredients In a Family You Wanna Be Part Of

Last night was the Celebration Church Thanksgiving dinner. It's one of the highlights of the year. After we shared a fabulous meal together, our worship team rocked the place and then people had opportunity to share what they are grateful for.

Our son Jordan was one of the first people to come to the microphone and speak. Before sharing about his new job he pointed to Larry and me and said: "I'd like to thank God for these two people, for the privilege of growing up in their home, and having them as parents." Shortly after, our son Dustin (who is now the youth pastor at our church) got up and the first words out of his mouth were, "I'd just like to thank God for my family..."

Wow. So, of course no matter how many times I hear stuff like this it just makes my buttons bust. (Well, that and all the weight I've gained...)

After the boys spoke, I began thinking: what makes a family great to be part of? What makes a house a home you can't wait to get back to?

We don't have a perfect home. And we've never claimed to.

That's not what this post is about, but I would like to share a few things that make our family one we all love to be part of:



We laugh a lot.

Boy do we love to laugh! Whether it's sharing memories at dinner time until we cry-laugh or watching our favorite shows that we pre-record and watch together, there's a lot of ha-ha's happening in this house. 

We have special traditions.

We have so many of them, I don't know where to start in listing them. We've got a lot of them at Christmas time and all through the year.

I learn just how much traditions mean to Dustin, Jordan and Savanna when we suggest making even a slight tweak to what we normally do. They are usually not happy at all!   A sense of familiarity bring stability. Think of this - the word familiar derives from the word family.


 We say we're sorry.

Owning up to mistakes is important. Kids learn this importance of this by observing their parents. I've had to apologize a lot. Let's be real, nobody wants to be around somebody who never humbles themselves and apologizes.

Come to think of it, these three ingredients aren't found only in households, but in any healthy church family.


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