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3 Ways to Change Your Kids' Lives Every Day

1) Believe in them. 

Every kid wants more than anything for their parent to believe in them. Believe in them every single day.  Let them know you do, often. Over and over again. Until they are sick of hearing it! (They might act like they are tired of you telling them. Don't believe it. Keep telling them. If you're going to change their lives every day you  have to tell them good things every day.)

2) Be excited every time you see them. 

Do your eyes light up when they walk in the room? These are your kids. Your amazing offspring. Let them see the excitement every time they show up. I realize some of you have little kids and they are running in the room a few hundred times a day. You might wish they would run out. I know you are frustrated, but please realize, your kids are the most amazing thing you will ever create. So get excited!!  Today as I was doing a hospital visit for one of our church members, my 22 year old son Dustin walked in the room. Immediately I stopped what I was doing, turned around and had a, "Yahoooooo! It's Dustin!!!" moment. This is where my eyes light up and I run over and fling my arms around his neck and kiss both his cheeks, feeling his stubbly beard poke my face. It was a highlight of my day.

3) Let them know you are proud of them. Every day.

Tell them you're proud of them until they are sick of hearing it.

How does it make you feel when someone says, "I'm proud of you?"

We love it, whether we're 4, or 44.

Having someone say, "I'm proud of you," is incomparable.

"I'm proud of you" shouldn't be reserved for moments when they do things like graduate or get married. "I'm proud of you needs to be something they hear on a regular basis, for small things too.

By the way, speaking of being proud, Jordan landed an amazing new job today with Capital One. It comes with a fabulous salary, full benefits, amazing incentives, AND paid college tuition.

Yeppers, we're proud of him!

I was also really proud of him for opening my car door yesterday. 

These three things work, my friends. You can never go wrong when you believe in your kids, let them see your love, and tell them you're proud of them. Go get 'em!
 

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