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What To Do When You're Not Moving Ahead


Maybe you’ve tried to accomplish something and months or years later, you find yourself at the same spot in life, with little progress. 

Today I’m going to give you some advice that sounds so simple.And it is, yet it’s a major key.
Listen to your “shoulds” -- not the ones other people tell you as in, you should do this and you should do that.  Those can be super dangerous. Listen to your own shoulds that come not from guilt but the desire of your heart.

Pick just ONE should.

Then let nothing stand in the way.

I have heard hundreds, maybe even thousands of people say, “You know, I should write a book.”     Rare is the person who ever follows through and does this.

This is because it’s not easy to write a book, even for people who love to write. 

This extends to anything, not just writing. 

“I should lose some weight...”
“I should look for another job…”
“I should go back to school…”   

These are all worthy goals. Yet most of the people who say they should do those things, don’t. 

A smaller percentage of people pick a certain thing, zero in on and let nothing stop them. 

Perhaps you've tried to do too many things at once.

Or, it might be that you talk about a lot of things but once you start them you see how hard they are and you lose interest. 

If you really, really, really want something -- let me encourage you to do three things.

1) Focus on one thing you've been telling yourself you should do.   

2)  Allow time for that one thing each and every day. Even if it's just fifteen minutes. Do it, no matter what. Do it when you're sick. Do it when you're tired. Do it when tragedy strikes. Do it on days when everything falls apart. (My family laughs at me when I gently wipe my computer with Clorox wipes to sanitize it when I'm sick. Nothing keeps me from writing. Not puking, not tragedies, not a thing in this world could pull me away from writing.)  

3)  Don't give up even if it seems insurmountable. I've had terrible days in writing. Days I've stood in the shower and sobbed after a rejection letter. I cry in the shower so it won't be so hard on my family to hear me/see me lose it to that degree. Yeah, rejection is a beast. A terrible, nasty beast. After being spent from wailing I get out and dry off, put my PJ's on, and sit back down at my computer and start writing again. 

By the way, my e-book is coming out later this month on Kindle. I can't wait to see how it's going to help people. I know there will be people who will be really glad I never gave up.

I hope you'll be reading.
 

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