Thursday, August 23, 2012
What Are You Waiting For?
We all have our dream... our version of the perfect life.
The perfect situation.
The perfect time.
Actually the place I ate lunch at today was pretty well close to perfection. It's pictured above in this photo I took with my phone. I was at a district women's leadership meeting all day and we were treated to lunch at this place called Lavender & Lace.
It was perfection but most things in life are not. And if I looked closely enough I'd probably find something out of place at Lavender and Lace. (Yeah, that sounded kind of Dr. Suess-ish)
Are you always waiting for the perfect time to do something?
Do you wait because things aren't "just so"?
That's a shame because they never will be, until heaven.
If you struggle with perfectionist tendencies, it's hard for you to let go and just do whatever it is you're supposed to do.
But we need you to do what you're supposed to do!
When I'm writing something, it's never good enough. Even after I click publish I'm an incessant tweaker and at some point I just have to stop tweaking. I write articles for various publications and I'm sure editors are so frustrated with me at times. When they get an e-mail or phone call with my fifth revision because "this one flows so much better..." I'm sure they're thinking, "does this woman have anything to do but rearrange words all the time?"
I second guess myself a lot, always striving to improve. It can be a good trait in that I'm always seeking to grow and learn, and be better. The dark side is that it can be about a quest for perfection instead of excellence. Remember, the spirit of perfection -- thinking one could be absolutely perfect -- is one reason Lucifer was tossed out of heaven into hell. Perfectionism is to be avoided but the spirit of excellence is a great core value.
If I'm not careful, I could talk myself out of doing anything until it's "absolutely perfect." Then I'd stall and do nothing. A lot of my job seekers that I'm coaching do this. They tell me their resume isn't good enough yet -- still has more work to go on it. Meanwhile they've worked on it for 7 weeks. Usually this is more about stalling and fear. At some point they have to start putting it out there or nothing will ever happen.
I finally gave myself a deadline that I had to press the publish button on JUGGLE, come what may. All the incessant tweaking had to be over and the day to step out was nigh. I'm so glad! A lot of people are being blessed by it, but that wouldn't be happening right now if I were still tweaking thinking it wasn't good enough.
What are you sitting on that you need to actually do something about?
The world needs you. Stop waiting for perfection.