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3 Keys to Handling Unexpected Changes


 
           You must welcome change as the rule but not as your ruler.  ~Denis Waitley

Early yesterday morning before I left for the church office, a big change was suddenly thrown into my life.

I realize seasons of change in life are the rule not the exception. And I like what Waitley said that change is the rule, but not our ruler.

While I was processing this change I found great comfort in a few things...

Getting out of the bathtub and seeing that Max and Maddie had taken up residency in mine and Larry's bed, with Max's paw wrapped around her...always warms my heart. Larry just had to take a photo even though we've seen it so many times...

Prayer in the sanctuary that I customarily lead every Thursday morning at Celebration...

Reading Jesus Calling...

Completing all my customary church ministry duties...

Coming home and riding my bike for a longer time in weather that couldn't have been more perfect...noticing on my ride that all the crepe myrtles are blooming...

Having Larry decide to cook dinner last night...he made barbecue chicken on the grill and mashed potatoes (my favorite comfort food) and corn...with fresh watermelon for dessert...

Sharing the events of the day with he and Savanna over dinner...

Going outside until the sunset and digging in the dirt in my yard...

3 things help me when I'm dealing with unexpected changes:

1) Keeping positive routines - by this I mean things like devotional time, having dinner as a family, etc. I've found this to be important in order to keep my spiritual, physical and emotional equilibrium.

2) Self care - it's important to not get into "chaos mode" when stuff happens and let things like exercise go by the wayside. It's more important than ever when navigating change. Self care gives us the strength to weather changes.

3) Connection - I called a friend. Changes are much easier to walk through when you don't go them alone. 

Changes are going to come but they don't have to rule you.  Remind the change that through it all, there are some things you're still in charge of!

What helps you move through unexpected change?


 

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