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Who's number one in your life?

The answer to that question determines a lot.

A man or woman can never be truly fulfilled unless God is in the number one spot. If we don’t have things in the proper order, we will be miserable.

Last night Larry shared with the couples at the event in New Smyrna Beach that we're not number one in each other's lives -- Jesus is. When we got married we wrote our own vows and Larry's vows to me began with this phrase:  "Deanna, I promise to fulfill my role as your second love…” He understood from the beginning that he would never be the number one man in my life. 

Deuteronomy 5:7 “You shall have no other gods before me.”

No one before him. No idols.

Many have made an idol of their marriage partner. Is there any wonder why many have problems in their marriage when they have placed the expectations upon their partner that only God can fulfill? 

By the way, I'm still in New Smyrna Beach with my #2 man today. :)  

Last week a lot of things got in the way of a true day off.  (Our day off is Friday.) Early that morning we were in bed trying enjoy our day off together and the text messages and phone calls started coming and never stopped all day long. That's when I decided something right then and there. We were taking two days off this week no matter what. 

The church in New Smyrna Beach offered to have us stay over on Monday and ordinarily I would have scheduled us to come back Sunday night afterwards to get back to work Monday.  Not this time. I called the pastor and said that were delighted to accept their invitation to stay over. Getting away is always helpful because even if people are calling, if you are a few hours away there's nothing you can do about it so you might as well shut the phone off and enjoy the day. :)

We'll take Friday off this week too, to make up for the day missed last week. That's something I'm doing in this new year. I committed to myself that if for some reason our day off was affected, I would schedule even more time off the next week to make up for it. I encourage all of you reading especially pastors -- do whatever it takes to have that sacred time each week with your #2 love. It's important, for only in taking the time that we  need to replenish can we finish strong.

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