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Are you married to your opposite?

Sometimes the perfect combination is the complete opposite.

Larry and I are tag team preaching tonight for The Well, a church in New Smyrna Beach, FL, at a couples event they are hosting. There isn't enough room for all of the couples who will be attending so they have had to make arrangements to hold the event at the First Presbyterian church. That's a great problem to have!

We're going to talk about many of our favorite subjects regarding marriage, one of them being the fact that opposites can not only survive but thrive in marriage.


For those of us who are married, here's an important truth...if both of you were the same, one of you would be unnecessary! God has given us a partner to enrich our life, not reflect it. Larry and I used to mistakenly believe that everything one of us did was a reflection on the other. Not true. Things got a lot better once we released each other from this false expectation.


Think about it -- we're made in God's image. Whose reflection are we?  We're His reflection.



Big problems come when we think or say, "I wish my spouse was more like me..." or "I wish I could change my husband/wife." (So they could become like me.)


They aren't designed to be a reflection of you, but of the One who created them.


Once this gets straightened out in a relationship every goes much smoother.


Pray for us as we minister to couples tonight in New Smyrna Beach, Florida. May God do a tremendous work in hearts and lives for His glory!

Comments

Pjoshua said…
Can you elaborate more on this subject, me and my wife are really struggling in this area and could use some wisdom please. God Bless

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