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"I am soooo glad I'm not a pastor..."

My friend Gary Boggess from church sent me a private e-mail the other day and among other things had this (below) to say.
As a believer, I am soooo glad I am NOT a pastor. I can speak my mind... mention something I heard about, quote from anything, copy and paste unpopular Bible scriptures as I feel led to. I can disregard being politically correct and speak directly to-the-point whether it brings laughter or serves as a needed suggestion or painful reminder. I can risk being right or wrong in order to speak my honest opinion. I can be blunt if needed, or rebuke whatever I feel needs rebuking without being worried that I'm stepping on a parishioner's (a giver's) toes. I can raise a flag, sound an alarm and generally do anything God puts on my heart to do without having to apologize, hide, duck or sanitize it to the degree my inteneded contribution is rendered so vague, that I have to pray that I successfully make a point at all. THANK GOD I am not a pastor in America today!!!"

When he said this to me I thought, "that's something people need to hear." So I asked him, "Gary, can I publicly share that on my blog?" He said, "sure!" 

I think this is a very interesting comment.


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Terri von Wood said…
In addition, it must be hard to have real friendships. They have to factor in a person's purpose for getting close. Do they really love them as a friend, plan to pray for them, lift them up, keep their confidences confidential....or do they just want to gain something....power, the appearance of being in the hierarchy, be in the know, have a good seat, etc.? It is sad....but true. I pray for our pastor's wife all the time. I know the pastor has a hard job. But imagine being the pastor's wife....living in the proverbial "glass house."

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