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Depressed because you don't have a holiday hook up?

Warning:  Deanna rant ahead.

If I see one more Christmas commercial, "every kiss begins with Kay" I'm going to puke.

Every year I hear some adults make the remark about hating the holidays, or dreading Christmas.  And you know what?  Most every single time it's about who they're not sharing Christmas with.  It's their depression about the fact that that they are not dating, getting engaged, married, making out or having sex.

Newsflash:  Christmas is not about whether you are making it to first, second, or third base, or all the way.


The way some believe you would think they mistakenly thought Luke 2:10 declared: “Fear not, for behold, I bring you snuggles of great joy that will be for all the people." [Sigh]


Christmas isn't about who we're with.  It's about who's with us.

Emmanuel...GOD WITH US.


That's what this season is about.  He chose to come in human form to become just like us, yet without sin. Through whatever it is that we're facing, or whatever our relationship status, He is with us.


Evidently a great amount of grown ups do not understand this with the way they carry on about not having anyone to share the holidays with, or that they don't have anyone to snuggle with, or the fact that the person they are snuggling with isn't going fast enough for them.  I'll never forget one Christmas years ago a friend of mine sobbed through the entire day because she didn't receive an engagement ring under the Christmas tree and several of her friends did.

We wonder why our kids are so focused on everything but Christ at the holidays, but what are we adults projecting?

Emmanuel, GOD WITH US.  Not who we're with.

Until we get that straight the depression will continue.


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