2) If you tell us something before the service and it's of a heavy nature, it's not only going to affect us, it's probably going to affect the entire church. It's hard to focus after a verbal bomb is dropped on you, and while most pastors can hold it together and do relatively well, the point is that the effectiveness of the overall service is at stake. Don't seek us out before service to tell us you are moving across the country or leaving the church or getting divorced. Don't tell us that you are disgruntled or know someone who is, moments before we get up to lead. (This is why most pastors hide out right before church!)
3) We want nothing more than to see you experience the fullness of God in your life. We've been praying all week about this day. We have such high hopes. We have come expecting. It means the world to us when you do too.