One of my goals is to communicate a life changing word to people every week. I am one of those rare women who preaches every week and most times more than once a week. I have a lot of opportunities to practice but by far my most important experience isn’t actually in the pulpit.
My most important tool of growth in communication happens afterwards, and that is in evaluation. I have come to believe that the reason most speakers never move forward is because they simply don’t honestly evaluate. The vast majority of people are scared of evaluation and their fear keeps them from ever moving from where they are to where they want to be.
I’ve been mercilessly evaluating every single message for 25 years. My messages aren’t just evaluated by me – I always request other people’s brutally honest evaluations. There’s a difference between evaluations and accolades. The majority of speakers I know request accolades because their insecurity or ego needs it. This makes you feel good for about five minutes but does nothing to help you long term.
Most preachers ask people, “Hey, how do you think it went?” or “How did I do?” This usually elicits responses like, “Awesome! You rocked it!” even if you totally blew it. Just sayin’. Most people will never tell you the truth unless you ask strategic questions. Powerful questions are designed to elicit a response that will help you move forward, not just keep you where you are.
How badly DO you really want the next level?
More on this tomorrow.