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Reality check for leaders

I've been thinking a lot lately about the importance of emotional health for leadership/ministry. The truth is that many people can manage to arrive at a position or platform but once they get there they seem to hurt as many people as they help.  (This can make whatever you're doing a moot point as there is no other reason for ministry other than helping people.)  How many times does leadership become something else entirely other than what we originally went into it for?  Way too much!

It takes intentionality to keep pure motives in leadership as well as maintaining a solid foundation from which to minister.  I find that I personally need constant tune ups. 

Some danger zones for me are times when I begin to:
  • Have an angry edge in my communication.
  • Negative things spill out when bumped.  (Whatever emotions fill you will spill out when people bump into you...)
  • Need the accolades of people to keep me going or prop me up (whatever God says isn't good enough any more...not enough to live on.)  Having the kudos of others is a wonderful thing and when it happens -- awesome.  But if I get to the point where I need it, crave it, solicit it or live on it, I'm in a dangerous place.
These are some warning signs for me that I personally need a serious tune up.  I also find that major tune ups aren't needed most times if I ask myself the hard questions on a daily or every few days basis.

    Comments

    Really good article today! Thanks for sharing it!

    Love you
    LaDonna
    You're welcome! Love you back!
    Kathy Butryn said…
    This is a very good reminder Deanna...I've got this post in my twitter que for tomorrow.

    blessings,

    kath

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