Friday, May 06, 2011

We're celebrating mean Moms!!!


It takes a lot of work to be a real Momma.  I don't think you've crossed over into real Mom status unless your kids have hated you at least once. While plenty of people can produce a child physically it takes more to actually raise a child, and particularly to do it in a God honoring way.  We have a plethora of "pals" today and a shortage of real PARENTS. Our children have tons of friends but only two parents (and in some cases only a single parent) so it's vitally important that we take up our role and not abdicate it.  It takes guts to set boundaries and expectations, and do the hard work of parenting.  My admiration and gratitude goes out to all of the women who are truly setting the standard and investing in the lives of their children by being willing to make the hard decisions and do the not-so-fun parts of Mommyhood.

I serve as a Mom to three natural children (and one in heaven) and also a spiritual Momma to many.  There is a teenage young man in our church who attends without his parents.  For confidentiality purposes I will call him Alex -- not his real name.  There are times I've taken Alex aside and spoken to him about things I believe he needs to hear for his own good.  Sometimes it's an encouraging word, other times a warning, and a few times a correction.  It really doesn't matter whether I'm building him up or correcting him, he sometimes gets emotional either way.  One day after I spoke with him he said, "PD, you're the only one who has ever told me these things."  I was reading his facebook page one day and I noticed that a girl from his work was saying very inappropriate things to him.  I gently took him aside and said, "I'm giving you a motherly warning to stay away from that girl.  She wants all the wrong things from you and I'm concerned and taking you aside to talk about it just as I would Dustin or Jordan if the same happened."  Alex reached out to hug me and with TEARS said, "PD, THANK YOU! SO MUCH!!  My own mother would not have the courage to tell me something like that and it's what I've needed for YEARS and would have kept me out of a lot of trouble in the past!!!"  (I'm happy to say he has stayed away from that girl...lol)

Anyway why am I saying all of this?  Because it's not easy to raise your kids in God's ways and this weekend at Celebration we're celebrating women who do the hard work of wiping runny noses...

We're celebrating women who hold teenage kids to curfews even when they rebel, and say "No you can't do that even if your friends are..."...

We're celebrating ladies who stick to their principles even when their kids hate them for a while...

We're celebrating Moms who are perfectly okay with their kids thinking they are mean when they are doing things for their own good and particularly when they are just following what the bible says!! 

We're giving kudos to moms who understand this isn't a popularity contest, it's a CALLING!!!
 
Saturday we have our "All God's Daughters Tea".  This isn't just for moms -- it's for all women and girls ages 6th grade and up.  I want all of our women and girls to be blessed as this day unfolds...all of God's daughters will gather as Jinny Force joins us as as our guest speaker.  She and her husband Al are our Pen-Florida Youth Directors.  Jinny is a popular speaker at girls conferences and has wisdom to share with ladies too.   

Sunday we're having some special gift giveaways and I'm bringing a word the God has put in my spirit.  Right now Larry and I are doing a series called, "A-May-Zing" and Sunday will be entitled "A-May-Zing Moms of the spirit!!!"  I am so excited to unleash this word, I can hardly wait.

Celebration Moms, get ready for an EMPOWERING Sunday!!!

2 comments:

Melissa said...

I am in total agreement with this :) I was just telling someone it's not our job to be friends right now with our children, it's our job to be in the trenches, get dirty, be the mean mom and show our kids what God's word says, means and applies to their lives. I truly believe there is a scripture for every situation they face whether they like it or not. So if being the mean mommy means saying no a lot, disciplining when society says talk it out and watching out for my babies to protect them from satan's snares then I will gladly accept that title!

Ruth said...

Motherhood - The toughest job you'll ever love! Happy Mother's Day!