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What does a leader look for in a friend?


Did you ever wonder what leaders are looking for in a friend?  

There are several qualities that are not optional for the close friend of a leader to possess. Two of the most important are a pure heart (right motivation) and someone who always speaks well of them. I got this from the greatest leadership book every written, by the way.  I'm about to quote from it.  The truth is that leaders are so consumed with a plethora of details, they don't have time to worry all the time about whether the folks close to them are there for the right reasons, or have their back.

Proverbs 22:11 says, God loves the pure-hearted and well-spoken; good leaders also delight in their friendship."  Proverbs 22:11 (MSG)

What does well spoken mean?  It speaks of positive, loyal conversation.  

The NLT puts it this way:  "Whoever loves a pure heart and gracious speech will have the king as a friend."  A person that Proverbs 22 speaks of will not only HAVE the king (leader) as a friend, but a person who is faithful with these qualities also KEEPS the king (leader) as a  friend.

If you are a person God has chosen to be a close friend to a leader, these qualities are not optional if you want to have a lasting relationship.

Comments

DaNella Auten said…
I totally agree, although I had never put it into words... I have been without a close (geographical location) friend for several years, and without a true close friend (heart wise) for a couple of years. I think I have one now. I am still getting to know her. I am really scared to trust anyone after the last couple of years... ;) I think, (hope and pray) she has these qualities.
btw thanks for your encouragement on my blog... I am attempting to get back at that... I just find I have to consider sooooooo much when I post, since I am in college and hope to be job searching soon... I don't want to be googled and then not get hired because of something stupid I blogged in anger.

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