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Secret Crosses

Bette* is a woman in ministry who has a special needs child.  In addition to all of her other responsibilities her life is filled with  taking her child to 100 times more doctor's appointments than most other moms around her face.  She lives with physical and emotional demands on her can't be explained, only experienced.  

Tressa is a woman in ministry whose pastor-husband struggles with depression.  He won't get help.  It has almost killed their marriage but no one would ever know it by what they see on the outside each and every Sunday and mid-week service. 

Melinda is a woman in ministry who just experienced the foreclosure of her home and church this past year.  Her family is temporarily living in a house another minister's family had available for them to stay in.  No one really knows the fear and anxiety that have gripped Melinda concerning their future.

I often think of my many friends in ministry and what people don't know about what they bear behind the scenes.  It's said that everyone has their cross to bear.  Truth be told I believe everyone has something they deal with that nobody knows about that just feels like it's going to crush you to death sometimes.  The going only difference in ministry is that you continue to lead people while you are going through it.

I have my own cross to bear and often wonder if people knew if it would make any difference in the expectation level of others in my world if they did know.  Probably not because everyone has some kind of a cross to bear so it's really nothing different from what anyone else quietly lives with.

My boss Kathryn often shares the quote: "Be kinder than necessary for everyone you meet is fighting some sort of battle." 

Indeed.

 *All names besides Kathryn's have been changed.

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