I never imagined the phone call I would get later in the week, from a stay-at-home Mom in our church. Her husband was the breadwinner working outside the home full time and she was busy at home caring for the children and the household duties. Her husband had an old dog, "Bo", that had been so sick with arthritis among a myriad of other things, that the poor thing could hardly walk anymore, nor could he control where/when he would have an accident. She was frustrated and had been asking him to please take the dog to the vet, and have him put to sleep, as it was time and nothing more could be done for Bo. Her husband was just heartbroken over saying goodbye to his pet and up until that point had refused to do so. So...
She called to inform me that her husband was angry about my message, and she also wanted to thank me for the message as well as receive further advice on what to do. Apparently after I taught the session about being set free from co-dependency, she decided to just leave the pee-pee and the doo-doo on the floor whenever Bo would have an accident. If Bo had six accidents during the day, her husband would come home after work to all of these messes. She instructed her children to hop over or around these messes all over the house. Her husband was so upset about this (he felt it was her job to clean it up since she was home during the day), he left the messes there. This had gone on for A WEEK!!! At the point when she called me, there were dozens of piles of dog mess all throughout the house. She said, "Pastor Deanna, I've opened all the windows in our home, and I've been spraying air freshener on all the little piles hoping it will make it better. We can hardly sleep, the smell is so bad."
Then she followed up by saying, "Um......... is THIS what you were referring to in your message about co-dependency???"
Well, not exactly...[sigh]
** If you were the lady in this story, what would YOU have done if faced with that situation with your husband? I am going to wait until people reply in the comment thread before I tell you what I suggested to her. I think it will be interesting to see people's suggestions to this dilemma and compare notes with what I offered as a suggestion to her.