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Do you really know?

Have you ever gone through something and somebody comes up and says, "yeah, I know exactly how you feel..."?

Many people who do that have no clue how you feel unless they've been through the same exact thing.  And how many people have been through the same EXACT thing?

We're not alone.  A big lie the enemy wants us to believe is that we're alone.  But, there's a difference between being alone and understood.

Someone can sit right beside me, be "with me" in physical proximity, or offer support, but not really understand.

I'm watching a friend go through this right now.

I don't know how she feels.  That's why I ask her. 

I know how I  think I might feel if I were her but I can't say for sure because I'm not.

I can only ask:  "how do you feel?" and offer my love and prayers.

If she asks what I think, I tell her.  But I don't offer it if unasked.  And we are close friends, but I still don't believe it's my place unless I'm asked.

When she's ready, if she's ready...she'll ask.  And even though I have my opinions, I realize that opinions are like noses, everyone has one.  And despite my opinion, I'm not living her situation.  And, since her situation is not clearly spelled out in scripture and it's one of those things God lets us decide...

I'll just give her a hug and say, "I'm here and I love you" and refrain from the "yeah, I know how you feel" or "listen...this is what you need to do."

Because I really don't know.


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