In light of what all marriage books tell us about the emotional needs of men and women, how does this affect the other areas of our lives outside of marriage?
The truth is, according to all the marriage books, both men and women are extremely needy in several different ways. While a marriage partner hopefully cares enough about their marriage to keep those things in mind, "the world at large" doesn't care. I can already hear the comment stream now... "yes, and that's why it's so important that marriage partners meet the needs because no one else will..." I agree with that. But it's not my point.
Here is my point. The world at large could care less about how you tick and finding out your love language. Your spouse hopefully cares, and your Momma might care, but I would venture to say that your boss doesn't care, your co-workers don't care, the teller at the bank doesn't care, the cashier at Walmart doesn't care, your broker doesn't care, your neighbor doesn't care, your kid's teacher doesn't care. They don't care whether you need love or respect, whether you are a waffle or spaghetti, whether you are from Mars or Venus. They just want you to do what you are supposed to do, and get on with it without whining.
So my question is -- since we are all fragile according to the research, and the world at large doesn't care -- how does your average person make it on their jobs or in other avenues of life when they don't get what they need or want a great majority of the time?
I asked my husband this question and he simply said: "they don't make it."
Larry says most people struggle and this is why HR departments exist and their people clean up messes every single day...because people can't handle it.
What do you think?