I want to start sending people DVD's of their baby's dedication at random times when I think they need a reminder of the vows they made in front of God and the church. I said, "baby dedications have become the new weddings."
Baby dedications have become an opportunity for celebration with little thought to true dedication thereafter which is the whole point of the dedication. One lady we performed a dedication for years ago requested the use of the fellowship hall afterwards and had a full sit down dinner reception after their baby's dedication for friends and family. So, what's the problem with that? She never personally brought her children back to our church or any church. The grandparents brought the child most of the time when they came. There are some parents who come back on special occasions but that's about it.
The purpose of a baby dedication is not just to show off your child and have a big family sha-bang and then go home and revert to being a casual Christian or church attender. A baby dedication is performed for the purpose of dedicating your child to God's purposes and agreeing to do your part to to training them for His purpose. Perhaps one should consider whether they are going to be dedicated before they request a dedication be performed . A dedication is more for the parents than the children because at the dedication parents promise to raise their children in the ways of the Lord and be faithful in bringing them for Christian instruction.
Spend a million dollars on your wedding if you want to - but when the reception is over, FULFILL YOUR VOWS that you made. Likewise with your baby dedication. Pull out all the stops and do it up big time. Invite the world. Then FULFILL YOUR VOWS. Be a Christian parent.