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I'm not alone and I'm not crazy.

So today I'm just once again thinkin' about friends.  Because so many times friends are what make my world go round.

Friends save me from insanity...

Friends put a smile on my face...

Friends let me know that I'm not in this by myself.  Having a hand to hold (especially in the dark times) makes all the difference. 

This past week as we were riding along talking for about 20 hours when you add up all the trips back and forth combined, my friend Tammy made an observation.  After a few hours of deep conversation baring our souls she said  "our friendships are so important because they let us know that we're not alone and we're not crazy."  She's so right.

I often tell young ladies that during the time they date or get engaged they need to be careful to continue to nurture their female friendships.  Don't let them go!  Cultivate them...continue to grow.  Develop very deep female friendships for there are some things guys just can't or won't do for you.  For instance, they aren't usually in the habit of holding 20 hour deep conversations while traveling and still have plenty left to talk about when they get home.   They only listen for so long on any one subject and wonder, "why are we STILL talking about this?"  If they listen THAT long they are just waiting desperately for something else...like hopping into bed...trust me on this.  But your girlfriend will listen to it all the day long, and she will NOT think  you're crazy, and she will not need you to "do anything for her" when you're done telling her what you just told her.  LOL. 

I need girlfriends who will talk to me for 20 hours and long for more..
Who will laugh with me...
Cry with me...
and still respect the call of God and anointing on my life even when they know the good, bad and ugly that is the reality of my life as well. And I need to do all that for them in return!

 I'm not getting into name dropping here but suffice it to say, all my good friends read my blog.  If they didn't read my blog I would wonder why in the heck I'm still friends with them.  :)  A real friend not only listens to you talk on and on but they check your blog for even MORE stuff you're talking about.   So here's to you my cherished ones...for walking this road with me and letting me know, I'm not alone and I'm not crazy.  I am honored to do life with you and only hope I can be as good a friend to you as you are to me.

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Friends are treasures to look in this life. The encourage, they support, and - like you said - keep us sane. Nice post :)
Michele said…
Nope Never Alone
Ruth, PA said…
You are so right, Deanna!!! I am so thankful for my girlfriends!! I can't count the number of times they pulled me from the "edge of the cliff" before I fell over the edge! Although we have never met face to face, I am thnkful for you, your dily words of encouragement, wisdom, and "horse sense" lol. And yes, it is wonderful that we are not alone. But you know, among my group of girlfriends most of our problem discussing ends with , "Oh, they're just being idiots." or "Girlfriend, how long have you been married...that's just a man being a man!" LOL ;)
Love to you,
Ruth
Eagles Wings said…
Words of wisdom my dear friend! Words of wisdom...don't let them go, I made that mistake and now I have no one around, beside the fact that we moved out of state....starting all over again!

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