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Pastor's Kids: Living a life most people could never understand.





Today is my monthly column for ministry wives at Take Root and Write.   This month's article is:  "Pastor's Kid's:  Living a Life Most People Could Never Understand.   Enjoy...especially those of you who have a heart for PK's or those who have them in your home.  If you are a PK or the parent of a PK this probably won't tell you anything you don't already know, however it will be a place where you feel understood. 


Comments

LAURIE said…
Deanna, what a great article over at Take Root and Write. Being in the ministry my kids have experienced what you are talking about and right now we have a teen daughter that is struggling with some of the hurt cast down on her. One thing I wanted to add for people to think about when considering the "perks" of being a pk, lets not forget the sacrifices our kids have to make. The times that our family dinner is cut short so daddy can rush to the hospital to visit you, or the times that going to the movies has to be postponed because your family just had an emergency pop up, or when pks birthday celebration has to wait another day because of an important business meeting. Blessings of being a pk? ...sure, but alot of sacrifices as well. -blessings.
Ruth, PA said…
Excellent, Deanna! Well said and beautifully written! Thank you!
I'm still surprised at how little it takes to bring feelings to the surface and tears to my eyes. Your children are so blessed to have you and Larry. Often, PK's parents are more worried about what the congregation will say (or do) instead of their children's feelings. May those who read realize the importance of protecting, encouraging, and blessing PK's .
That was a wonderful article on being a PK. God help our churches to love and nourish the pastor's family.

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