What does it mean to relinquish?

There is a difference between relinquishment to God and the acceptance of defeat.

For so long I chafed against accepting certain things because I felt I was giving up or compromising. I viewed some things as failures in my life (or possible failures) because they just didn't seem to work in my life, at least the way I long for them to. After prayer and contemplation I am starting to see that with some things in life it is not a matter of defeat but giving control to God concerning that which I have no power to do on my own.

I'm still scared in some ways that certain things will not be the way I envision by the time I cross life's finish line. Giving over those hopes and dreams to God is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do and I'm just not there yet, but I'm on my way.

Setting for mediocrity and giving up vs. giving God control are two different things.