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The sixth sense of a friend


Once again I just want to thank my friend Ada Alfonso for doing what she does best: understanding. Yesterday I walked in to get my hair done. Before I could even say anything, in her usual caring tone, she reached out to me and said, "are you alright?" She had heard from Lisa about my car. I wasn't going to talk about it, (I just don't want to hear condescending words from people - not that Ada would do that - but some would so I stay quiet). But when she brought it up, I just said, "no one could really ever understand..." and she cut me off before I could finish and said, "yes...yes I do understand. I know what it means to you. It's not just a car."

And with that she stood there for 10 minutes and gave me a "consolation speech" without me saying anything just letting me know how much she understands, before she even had me get ready to put on my color. She basically said everything that was in mind that I didn't say...and as usual I felt peace when I left from the wisdom she brings.

That's Ada. I could tell by the look in her eyes and the words coming from her mouth that she truly knew how I'm feeling. Maria has this capability too...it's amazing.

Thank you Ada, for hearing me, even when I don't say anything. I think a real friend just has this uncanny ability. I hope I can do the same.

By the way, I decided to purposely step out and do something great for somebody else that will be a lot of work. That's what I have to do to feel better most times - give in some way to others and get my mind off of myself. When we help other people, we all begin to feel better. Since the majority of my work as a pastor is in doing so, when I get down, I have to step out beyond my norm, and do something more. Today I began planning it. It will be a several week project. I'll let you know how it goes.

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