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A gap in the head




Larry and I are gearing up for a month long Sunday morning series, "Desperate Households". We will be tag team preaching it together. Add to this three marriage conferences coming up. What is this a recipe for? A direct attack on our family from the enemy. This usually happens when we teach on marriage or family but wowee, this time it's really a whopper.

Larry and I are fine, but it has been nothing but high stress with the kids all week. Just one "slam" after another from the enemy. I have really felt incredibly stressed. I talked to two friends today about it. One remarked to me that sometimes we hesitate to ask anyone to pray for us about things with our kids because they assume if your kid is not on drugs or something it's really not serious enough to need prayer for. Some people think all the serious stand in the gap intercession should be done on behalf of those prodigals who are in the pigpen. They think us Moms with kids like ours are just dealing with small potatoes stuff. And that's just not true. 

No, my kids aren't out there on drugs, getting drunk or having sex. Truth be told, they love the Lord. But still, the issues with them really stress me out. I have asked three people to really join with me and stand in the gap right now for us. I started reading, "The Power of a Praying Parent" again today and am praying the prayers over my kids. 

I don't have the ability to do this on my own. Not for a second. I've always known this, but right this moment...I REALLY know it. 

I am thankful God cares about them even more than I do and His guiding hand is upon them. Cathy Lussier told me this week that part of the issue is, boys brains are not fully developed until they are 25 years old. Since Cathy has raised four great kids, I tend to believe her. She says there is supposedly some "gap" in the front of their head that is not brought together until they are 25 or thereabouts. They do not have all their reasoning skills up until this point, and they may do things that just don't make any sense at all. Supposedly researchers have found this out. I don't know how true it is, but I really don't doubt it a bit. Now...what about girls? If there is no gap in their heads, then what in the heck is wrong with them

Is this all really due to a gap in the head, or is it just God's revenge for everything we did wrong as kids?

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Oh man, I heard that report on NPR. That the frontal lobe of teenagers does not fully fuse until they are adults. And that fusion is responsible for our us understanding consequences and so on. When I heard that it just made so much sense. I extended more grace to my teen once I heard this. Her poor frontal lobe isn't developed.

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