tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34244281.post641663520373382032..comments2023-10-25T05:38:29.800-04:00Comments on Deanna Doss Shrodes: When parents zero in on one kid and lose anotherDr. Deanna DossShrodeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06651422170585497480noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34244281.post-13637655937979015162012-04-03T08:49:51.027-04:002012-04-03T08:49:51.027-04:00Couldn't help but agree completely with you Pa...Couldn't help but agree completely with you Pastor. Being parents of a daughter who has an illness that needs constant care; my wife and I are constantly faced with this challenge. Some may think that because it is the younger child that has the illness that it's easier for the older to cope. That would be very wrong. In fact, there are many times that I have to be reminded that no matter how old our children get, they will feel left out. Aren't we that way as children of God sometimes? Wanting the Lords approval, his conformation , his undivided attention? And God can do that for us all, where I cannot. (at least not at the same time like the Lord ). I am finding myself always "busy" with life. But recently God has been graciously showing me how important the little moments are. It doesn't always have to be Daddy dates or family outings to make the difference. Compliments, hugs, encouragement, etc. And as I am learning the most now... Always keep your promises, or don't make them. Thank you for this Blog:) Hits home big time!Douglasricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04011636133131711252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34244281.post-33261506086609375112012-04-01T23:44:13.977-04:002012-04-01T23:44:13.977-04:00Realizing there is an issue is so important, Conni...Realizing there is an issue is so important, Connie Jo. I think the fact that you even recognize it is SO key. In my experience, many parents who have this issue in their home don't even recognize it. The child (whether underage or adult) feels like they are the only one who sees it and quite frankly a lot of the time they are! <br /><br />That you make an effort to remember his needs is important and I'm sure he sees that being that he's an adult with a certain level of maturity. Just speaking the words, "we are proud of you son," goes so far. It's not even so much "doing" things for him as recognizing him for a life well lived. Can I just encourage you that what you take a moment to SAY to him will mean more than anything! Just hearing: "Son, we are proud of you for a life well lived..." = PRICELESS. <br /><br />Love youDr. Deanna DossShrodeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06651422170585497480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34244281.post-50265621206438593692012-04-01T23:34:53.210-04:002012-04-01T23:34:53.210-04:00It is very real in our home as well. I have two a...It is very real in our home as well. I have two adult children one of which suffers from addiction. Her needs tend to consume us at times and on top of that we are raising our Granddaughter so my poor son is often overlooked. We make an effort to remember his needs as well and as an adult he understands but that doesn't make it any easier on him.Connie Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08548939913447646801noreply@blogger.com