tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34244281.post4830079465319800719..comments2023-10-25T05:38:29.800-04:00Comments on Deanna Doss Shrodes: Puzzled by friend requestsDr. Deanna DossShrodeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06651422170585497480noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34244281.post-82486586822866987442009-07-30T22:28:29.357-04:002009-07-30T22:28:29.357-04:00I woke up about a month ago, in the middle of the ...I woke up about a month ago, in the middle of the night and suddenly knew I had to defriend someone... When I went to they had already unfriended me... so I unfriended his wife. I think they were just using it to spy on me... <br />Sad... I would like for adults to be adults...DaNella Autenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01343518686058163040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34244281.post-18967509244994241222009-07-28T23:11:45.236-04:002009-07-28T23:11:45.236-04:00LaDonna, I have experienced that same thing. You ...LaDonna, I have experienced that same thing. You are not alone. It's very disheartening, sometimes makes you wish the internet was never created when stuff like that happens. Pastors in other generations would never have to face a thing like that. <br /><br />Although I've gone through it too, I like too many other aspects of it to give it up so I haven't. But there are times I do cringe and at one point the Lord told me specifically to "hide" certain people's comments on my news update (the scrolling thing that shows you who has just posted what) and to never look on their page, although I kept them as a friend just to avoid more drama since they are still connected with people in our church. [sigh] The Lord just told me not to read it because it is not, "true, honest, just, pure, lovely, of good report..." so I just hide the comments and read what He directs me is alright to keep reading, for my own emotional health. I hope that makes sense. You know my sister left facebook for a short time because of the same type of thing I think, but she recently came back to it and set her preferences differently so she'd only see certain things or only certain ones could post. I missed her a lot on there so I'm glad she's back but understood why she left for a while.<br /><br />There's a crown in heaven for us for all this, sister...believe me...<br /><br />Love you much, and I understand ...xoxoDr. Deanna DossShrodeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06651422170585497480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34244281.post-18303439587250454282009-07-28T22:47:17.556-04:002009-07-28T22:47:17.556-04:00I thought Facebook was a wonderful tool until rece...I thought Facebook was a wonderful tool until recently..... when people that were disatisfied with us or our church and moved on or elsewhere have chosen to broadcast their comments on facebook. The sad thing is people that are my friends and know these folks can their remarks. This past weekend my husband and I chose to remove ourselves from it. <br /><br />It seems to me most folks just use it to be nosy and like you mentioned to gossip about others. <br /><br />We don't need the drama as we have enough going on in our lives with situations to deal with. <br /><br />I am so over it!Ladonnanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34244281.post-22421771427506181532009-07-28T11:07:20.668-04:002009-07-28T11:07:20.668-04:00I am logged on to the former YP's computer so ...I am logged on to the former YP's computer so I can get some work done, so I stopped on by for a moment before tackling preschool schedules :o).<br /><br />I rarely add people on Facebook - most of the time they find me first. I think Facebook is just an extension of the phenomenon of people who wouldn't give you the time of day in high school/college/whenever, and now give you a big hug when they see you, acting like you were always the best of friends.<br /><br />My view on that is to just let them be delusional - doesn't bother me any!<br /><br />People who have deliberately gone out of their way to hurt me? Not a chance. Like you, while I bear them no ill will, there is just not enough time in my day to get tangled back into their issues!<br /><br />It goes without saying [and this is somewhat of a PSA for anyone who reads this] to NEVER add anyone you don't know. That's just dumb.<br /><br />Gotta run!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34244281.post-92039342987034344022009-07-28T03:18:01.675-04:002009-07-28T03:18:01.675-04:00A lot of good ideas why somebody asks to be your f...A lot of good ideas why somebody asks to be your friend. I don't ask somebody unless:<br />1. I know them or<br />2. I know someone they're close to or<br />3. I knew them way back when or<br />4. I like them as an entertainer, sportsman, comedian, etc.<br />I don't accept a friend request unless:<br />1. I look at there page or<br />2. Know them personally or<br />3. I would like them to see the information I reveal in Facebook.<br />Typically I ask for requests more than receive. Now Twitter is different. People use that for marketing purposes. I click on the people following me and if they are just a person that likes stuff I do, then I leave them follow. However if they are just there to get you to go to a bad website or sell you stuff, I'll block 'em. Twitter is a way to witness. If they want to follow you then your update shows up on there home page! Facebook is more friend oriented. You do have to use a little discernment before you push accept!Aaronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03451763770350500447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34244281.post-12745836272909558272009-07-27T12:40:43.483-04:002009-07-27T12:40:43.483-04:00HMMMM...this is something I have thought about as ...HMMMM...this is something I have thought about as well! I have had many friend request that I just scratch my head and think, "Huh, what, are you serious?!" <br /> Personally I think that many people feel like they can either be someone they are not or feel like they can be who they really are without the worry of the face to face acceptance of people. I agree with Mike, that in some cases it may be a reach for healing but I would rather have a face to face conversation to heal a relationship!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17200671287941609083noreply@blogger.com