tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34244281.post2513389996053116579..comments2023-10-25T05:38:29.800-04:00Comments on Deanna Doss Shrodes: Bad advice I once thought about takingDr. Deanna DossShrodeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06651422170585497480noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34244281.post-18528989401746501702010-03-01T12:57:27.515-05:002010-03-01T12:57:27.515-05:00I've heard that one too, Leanne and I agree wi...I've heard that one too, Leanne and I agree with you, it's a piece of crapola, for sure.<br /><br />I personally believe abusive churches need to be boycotted by pastors, and shut down if need be (these churches are dangerous for unbelievers or new believers or really ANYONE to be in anyway, so what merit is there in keeping them open?) Too many pastors go to these becuase they figure a church is better than no church. They are wrong...if I had it to do all over again I would never, never, never pastor an abusive church nor would I expose myself or my family to abusive individuals.Dr. Deanna DossShrodeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06651422170585497480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34244281.post-982673108135503402010-03-01T12:28:03.509-05:002010-03-01T12:28:03.509-05:00I've heard the "don't say anything ne...I've heard the "don't say anything negative" advice before...yeah, let's walk on eggshells around each other! I believe that there is merit to not meeting your spouse at the door of the church immediately following the service and start critiquing the sermon. After a church service, much like a performance, there is an "adrenaline rush" that needs to wear off before we can really accept any constructive criticism. This is something I learned as a theatre major in college, and have carried into ministry. However, there is a point where the "rush" wears off and we [meaning both male AND female pastors!] do need to be open to learning how we can improve...<br /><br />My personal favorite piece of "advice" I have received is this: "All pastors are given a special measure of grace from God to deal with spiritually abusive congregation members, and we just need to have the love of God in our lives..." So because we're pastors, we have to put up with abuse? There is nothing in my Bible that says this - it talks at length about how to deal with contentious people...it gives instructions to ALL believers on how to live peacefully...but I don't see anything that says it's open season on pastors, and that's the way God wants it...Leannehttp://pastorleanne.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com