Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Is It Time For a Job Change?


Are you experiencing:
  • Headaches
  • Neck and Shoulder Aches
  • Skin Breakouts
  • Menstrual Irregularities and Infertility
  • Weight Gain
  • Fatigue (More than normal)
  • Bloating

Many times when these occur in women we just write these symptoms off as part of womanhood.
Men can experience all of these except for the menstrual irregularities, of course.

Did you know all of these symptoms are very common in someone who is dealing with a high level of stress in the workplace?

If you're experiencing some of these issues, when left unchecked and unaddressed they tend to lead to much more serious health issues.

If a change within your workplace is impossible, perhaps it's time for a change altogether.

What do you think?

 If you're experiencing these and haven't explored a change, why not?

What do you think typically keeps people from making a change until more serious health issues arise?

Monday, July 30, 2012

Why Who You Work With Matters


I've weathered staff relationships that were so out of sync it took more than prayer to manage the working relationship.  I needed a prescription from the doctor to deal with them until they resigned or were fired.

Just keepin' it real.

Who you work with is just as important as what you're working on.

If you aren't in unity with who you work with, it wears on you. Horribly. It affects your work so much, it can become unrecognizable. Ineffective. Bland.


Being out of alignment with those you work with causes you to lose your creative edge like nothing else. I'm not saying you have to think alike on everything, or be carbon copies of one another. That's really boring in itself to think about.

You know in your heart of hearts exactly what I'm talking about. There are times you just gel with people in a working relationship or you don't.

Money doesn't always define what brings happiness in a work situation. There are times I've been far happier making much less money and working with who I really want to work with. Lots of my friends, from minimum wage workers to those making six figures or more tell me this.

Get the WHO right and the WHAT becomes much more fulfilling ~ you hit your sweet spot much quicker and can stay in the zone of success.

 

Sunday, July 29, 2012

Weekend Potpourri


I'm on creative overload!

I love it, but I'm just sayin'.......................

Just thought I'd share tonight on my blog for any readers who are interested about my weekend.



Friday I worked most of the entire day on writing projects. It's my day off and that's the time, when I am not spending time with my family, that I really hone in on writing projects. Right now I'm getting a book proposal completed to submit by Wednesday. I have been putting my heart and soul into this, countless hours...15 minutes here and there that I have to spare on regular days and then large chunks of time on my days off. Fingers crossed and prayers circled. Please, believe with me. This particular project will touch countless lives. I am believing for a breakthrough, that just the right publisher will respond. Maybe this will be the one. If not, don't ever think for a second that I'm giving up. I've ripped the words defeat and quit out of my dictionary!

Second, I worked on my e-book that I'm releasing in August, on Kindle. Right now I'm getting the finishing touches done on it, and building out the website that will accompany it. It's almost ready to go.

And then, I'm working on a third project. It concerns... [drum roll please] ...ADOPTION. Yep. I said I more than likely wouldn't be writing on that subject anymore here, and for the most part, that's true. At the same time God is working on me to move in another direction with it, largely because of YOUR response. This is an issue many (especially birth mothers or adoptees) don't openly talk about but WOW, was my inbox full! People shared stories with me they've never told anybody about. And many said, "will you pleeeaseeee keep writing about this?"

Yes. I will. Your feedback has worked on me...A LOT. I'm working on a separate place, a spot all it's own, to write about this as well as some other things and will be announcing a new venture very soon along these lines. It won't take place here on this blog -- I will simply be announcing it here and letting you know where to go if you are interesting in being a part of it.


So in addition to that... [ready for this?] I'm writing our Christmas musical/play at Celebration this year. Well, me and our team as a whole. I've made it clear this is a collaboration! God spoke to me to do this -- gave me a clear plan as I was riding my bike one day and said, "this is what you're to do this year..." and it's BIG, BIG, BIG, huge-er (yep, I know that's not a word) than anything we've ever done or tried. It's not going to be your typical fa-la-la-la-la type Christmas thing...it's going to be 1 and 1/2 - 2 hours of sheer Christmas power and anointing dropping down into North Tampa.


Today I shared the vision with our team and when I say they are excited, I mean they are blow-the-roof-off excited. We began rehearsal today and already started working on a song. The team is growing even more -- many new young people joining -- we have such a passion to reach, teach, train young people and mentor them in music and in life. God is doing such a work!! I am blessed to serve God with this family...



So amidst everything else I've got writing a Christmas presentation on my mind all the time. I say presentation because there's no real adequate word for it right now. It will encompass vocal and instrumental music, drama, dance, art, media, and more. Please pray for us as we walk out this venture, that it will help us reach many in our city for the glory of God.


Aside from all that...I carved out time to step away from my computer on Friday and get pedicures with Savanna. Love spending time with that girl! Then we went out as a family late that night to Kobe. They have a 1/2 price deal after 9 pm and we love Kobe's. It can just be a bit on the pricey side so this deal is just amazing. We enjoyed it a lot along with our family friend, Steve Jagmohan. He's a friend of Jordan's who has been in his life a long time but just recently came to Christ and started coming to CC. Since then he's even got involved and helped us build our most recent set in the sanctuary. Sweet!

Saturday I spend most of the day writing again. I let the house and the yard go this weekend except for basic necessities (dishes, laundry) and pressed in to my writing projects. This week I have little time for them with all that is on the agenda with church work and then my coaching job. Thanks for your prayers for my writing endeavors right now. It's what I love to do, and the core of it is, I love making a difference through words. That's what I ask God for -- help me to change lives through words.

Today was a fantastic day at church all day long, from an off-the-chain service this morning, to a choir rehearsal that was one of the best I think I've ever experienced in my entire life.


Our three kids also went to Warped Tour this afternoon/evening and absolutely loved it. I've raised three kids who are CRAZY about music, if you didn't know...listening to it, playing it, singing it, all-things-music and Jesus is what they love. And I love that about them. :)

Don't forget this week here on the blog I'm going to talk about workplace stress and health. If you missed my initial post about this please backtrack and read it here.

Hope you all had a great weekend...

Much love,

 

Saturday, July 28, 2012

Why People Can Work LESS Hours and Be More Stressed

Two high students may take math class for the same amount of time per week, however one takes a class that is more difficult. A weighted GPA is based on the idea that some classes are much harder than others, and these hard classes should carry more weight. In other words, an 'A' in calculus represents a greater accomplishment than an 'A' in remedial basic math.

I am also of the belief that our work hours are weighted.



This may explain why you may work less hours than you used to, but be under more stress.
It may also explain why you might have the same job title in the same location, and be under greater stress this year than last year, depending on your current portfolio.

I have served as a pastor for 25 years, the last 18 of which have been with the same exact job title/position. During various seasons I have worked anywhere from 30-90 hours a week on church ministry alone, depending upon current needs. At one point my husband questioned me about why I was so stressed when I was actually working less hours than I had been previously.  My answer to him was that although I was working less hours than before, my portfolio at the time had changed and contained everything I absolutely hated to do, not to mention we were in a difficult season of the church. Functioning in such a situation can make 10 hours of work feel like 100!




You can actually work more hours and be less stressed than seasons where you work less and it's fulfilling work. To illustrate further, a pastor who is working 60 hours a week in a pleasant season where the church is moving forward in harmony and unity, who is operating in his/her primary God-ordained gifts will probably be much healthier than a pastor who is working 40 hours a week in a church that is experiencing conflict or hardship. The man/woman working in the business world for 40 hours a week doing things outside their primary area of gifting out of necessity may be less healthy than the person working another 20 hours on top of that in their sweet spot.

I am absolutely convinced of this.

Twenty-five years experience has convinced me.

I'm definitely healthier when I'm working in my God-given giftings and in a peaceful atmosphere for 60 hours a week than when I'm working under duress for 30 hours a week.

This should be so crystal clear to all of us, the wisdom of this. But it's not. We base so much on the "amount of hours one is working" and don't take time to consider the quality of those hours. I've come to believe that when it comes to work, the contents of the hours are more important than the cumulative hours themselves.


Perhaps you think, "why do that, then? Why not just do things you want to do and stay away from irritating people?"  There are times due to transitions, emergencies, etc. we need to step up and fill gaps or wear hats we don't normally wear. This is part of being a valuable employee -- that we are flexible and step up to handle unforseen things, emergencies, or transitions. Also, in any situation working with the public you will face irritating people and circumstances. Rare are the people who work absolutely alone with no interaction. So, that's how you get in these situation, whether in the business world, the church or wherever you work. At times it is truly unavoidable, at least for a while.


Do we need to be careful of the amount of hours we work, so as not to shortchange our basic need for rest, and our families? Of course. I'm certain that beyond that we also need to address the content of our work hours. For it's there that we find the difference many times between disease and health.

Monday I'm going to begin a series about workplace related stress that threatens your health. I hope you'll join me as we explore this important topic!

In the meantime do share with me your thoughts about "weighted work hours"...have you had the same experience I have, that you can actually work less hours and be MORE stressed?

Friday, July 27, 2012

Where I'm blogging today...

Today I'm blogging over at the Pastoring Partners Network with a post I've written called, "Pastors' Wives Dealin' With the Holy Ghost Paparazzi!" 

If you're a pastors' wife, I hope this is an encouragement to you.

Happy Friday, everyone!

 

Thursday, July 26, 2012

5 Ways to FOCUS and Get Over a Bad Day

So you had a bad day yesterday, or you're already having one today?

I get it.

Yesterday it seemed like whatever could go wrong went wrong.  I won't bore you with the details --  it's not important. What is important is me telling you how you can have a better day today if it's been yukky so far. I'm taking my own advice, by the way...

1) Focus on really basic things for a few moments. Things like breathing. Say out loud: "thank you God, for life, thank you for breath." Take that in for a moment. Realize how blessed you are to be sucking air for another day!

2) Focus on one thing that's working. Okay so a bunch of other things don't, like the lame people in your office who didn't show up or are dragging their blessed assurances getting anything done. Forget about them for a second and focus on something that does WORK, like this. Yes, my friends, this little concoction works as crazy as it sounds. I tried it myself yesterday and it truly does the trick.  

3) Focus on God's promises. They work too, more than magic cleaner. They are amazing! Yesterday in the midst of my stress I turned to Isaiah 55 and was reminded: “The rain and snow come down from the heavens and stay on the ground to water the earth. They cause the grain to grow, producing seed for the farmer and bread for the hungry. It is the same with my word. I send it out, and it always produces fruit. It will accomplish all I want it to, and it will prosper everywhere I send it." (verses 10-11) 


4)  Focus on something that's good for you. I know you want to eat a bag of potato chips. But don't. It's not going to help you and you're just going to regret it later. Same thing with a six pack. Really. Do something that's good for you, like a work out, or a pedicure. 


5)  Focus on good news. Just for today turn off CNN or Fox. How much more do you need to know about the Dark Knight shooter in Colorado? Really, it's not helping you any. Get a few new tunes lined up on Spotify -- something that lifts your spirit. Call a friend who has a tendency to keep things positive. 

Let's focus today and see a vast improvement!

Much love,

 

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Inhale...

Exhale...

What a day.

You?

 

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Life changing memories...



Today I'm sharing a video that's real special to me...it's from one of my trips to Africa and includes some favorite preaching and altar clips. (Special thanks to Gary Boggess for doing the edit and making it possible!)

This makes a great addition to my speaking page which was just updated.

Most of my day was spent lying on my back in a dark room trying to get rid of a migraine with nausea. (Ugh!) So...no deep insights today here on the blog -- just sharing a video and I'll be back tomorrow with my thoughts.

Much love,


Monday, July 23, 2012

Friends With Benefits & Teen Parenting Advice

If you would have ever told me that I'd one day be serving as a relationship advice columnist in a city newspaper I'd have said that you were  crazy! But here I am, writing for Insight. To be honest, some of the covers or contents are a bit saucy.  I'm kinda like a fish out of water, writing for this paper. But what an open door for me to be a light! I'm so grateful.

 Dustin read my column from last month but he said, "Mom, please keep it with you...don't leave that paper laying around in my room..."   (This month's cover is a little more risque than the one you see at left.) Wow!  That says two things to me: first of all, we've raised a young man of character and godly morals. Second, writing for this paper is an amazing opportunity for me to make relationships with a whole new group of people, have opportunity to speak into their lives, and hopefully make a difference.

I thought I would re-print last month's column here and let my blog readers see how I did answering the first questions. Keep in mind when I received the invitation to be a columnist I was told this was not to be a religious column, nor was I to quote the Bible. However I could write based upon my personal values and am free to advertise my blog and entice readers to come here for follow up. 

I thought it would be fun to share on my blog about the first column. Here were last month's questions and the column in it's entirety.



Dear Deanna: I’ve been in a friends-with-benefits relationship for a few years and just recently started having deeper feelings for him. Testing the waters about how he feels, I sense there really is no hope for anything more than what we already have. I’m starting to feel really down about this and wondering if I’ve destroyed my opportunity for more.  What if anything should I do at this point?
- Waiting for More

Waiting for More: Have you destroyed your opportunity for MORE? No. More of what is the question.  If you want more out of life, it’s absolutely possible. If you want more fulfillment, it’s absolutely possible. If you want happiness, it’s absolutely possible. But like anything else in life, you do have to give up something to get it.  In this case, it’s giving up of the same old thing you’ve been doing.  Literally. You’re into someone who’s not into you long term. He’s made that clear. If you want to get an extremely clear picture of exactly where he stands, cut off the benefits entirely. Let him know at this point in your life you’re pursuing something more. If he wants that, he’ll commit to you. If not, you know it’s time to move forward. Getting more in your life in either case is just one step away from a difficult decision that’s just been waiting to be made. A long term relationship with someone who is fully committed to you is available. But, you have to be willing to let go of where you’re at now to get to what you don’t have yet.  Often, our answers are found in powerful questions. Ask yourself these: what am I afraid of?  What are the qualities found in the kind of person I want to spend my life with? Here’s a tip for you.  When you begin a new relationship do so with physical benefits completely missing from the equation. When sex is out of the picture and you still find yourself enjoying the other person’s company and sharing the same interests, goals and passions, you may well have found Mr. Right!  True relationships of any kind require genuine commitment.  Spending time with a person outside of the context of the bedroom is where we really determine long term compatibility. Start there first, and MORE in every aspect will be possible.


Dear Deanna:  My 14year old daughter has been invited to a friend’s overnight party and I’m not friends with the parents to really know anything about what goes on there. My instincts tell me to be careful in this situation but I really don’t have any facts to give my daughter to tell her she can’t go. I didn’t have the best relationship with my mother growing up. I don’t want my daughter to hate me.  I want her to have friends, to be liked. At the same time, I want her to be safe. What’s a mom to do?
  - Sandy

Dear Sandy:  I understand! I’m a mother of three and have encountered similar situations with my own children. One of the most powerful things you said was, “my instincts tell me to be careful.” Our instincts are very important. They are a gift to us, to guide us as we raise our children, or really to do anything in life.  Something important to remember is that while your daughter has a lot of friends she only has one mom.  Kids in our society are often parented by those who often afraid of their kids’ reaction to a no. Nobody wants to be hated, even temporarily.  The fact is, parenting isn’t for cowards and sometimes it requires being less than adored by your kids to do the right or the best thing.  I often remind my teenage daughter that statistics tell us that one in four girls will be sexually abused by the time they turn 18. I let her know the standards in our household are not without purpose and one of the primary reasons they are there is to keep her protected from harm as much as possible.   Rules without relationship lead to rebellion. Spend time with her doing things she likes to do.  Share with your daughter as often as possible that because of your great love for her, you’ve given these issues a lot of thought and arrive at no decision hastily.  This week you might be unpopular with her but in years to come I believe she’ll thank you many times over, for being such a caring Mom!  

E--Mail your questions for future columns to deannashrodes@gmail.com. Due to space and time every question will not appear in the monthly column, however Deanna welcomes you to interact with her where she blogs daily at  www.deannashrodes.net. Deanna is an author, speaker and certified coach who loves living in the Tampa Bay area with her husband of 25 years and their three children.

Alright, that's last month's column! Whatddya think? Comment here or e-mail and let me know.
This month upcoming I'm tackling two more questions ~ one about parenting strong willed youngsters and another from an adult who's dealing with an emotionally abusive mom. Stay tuned!

Sunday, July 22, 2012

Weekend Potpourri


I'll begin by saying I'm so proud of the youth of our church.They dominated in the competition this week at church camp and won the distinction of "Camp Champs." More important they were changed by God at the altars! This morning all of them (but a few who were on vacation, etc.) came onto the platform and testified about what God did in their lives. It was just wonderful to hear the good things of God.

My family is home and we have enjoyed some wonderful times this weekend. Scott and Erica Warner from our previous church in Maryland were here for a visit and we went with them to Texas Cattle Company in St. Pete for dinner last night. What a time reminiscing and catching up!

Now that everybody is home I'm enjoying having my husband and kids back and getting in the routine of family again. This is good.

At the same time, I don't ask for prayer very often but today I am. I haven't been feeling well and have just kept marching on. I could really use a prayer if you are spending time in prayer today, please just say my name. Thank you.

Much love,

  

Saturday, July 21, 2012

When You Aren't Understood

Are you struggling to find people who understand?

That might be your reality right now. And if so, no pun intended, but I understand!

Something that helps me a little bit when I am feeling a lack of understanding is to do a check up on myself and try to give understanding in greater measure to others who are hurting.

Greater understanding might not come your way for a while. (Just keepin' it real!) But giving it away to others is such a great feeling knowing you are making a real difference in the world.

Friday, July 20, 2012

When You Just Might Burst...



Are you a pastor's wife who feels that you just might burst with everything that's inside you that you're not supposed to tell anybody?  I understand.

Today I'm blogging about that subject with a post, "Pastors' Wives: No Quiet Required" on the Pastoring Partners Network. Follow me there today if you're interested in reading on this subject. You can read the post here.

 

Thursday, July 19, 2012

You've Ticked Them Off Big Time!
(3 Ways to Recover)

 
You're sad. Frustrated. Maybe a little angry.

Someone has deleted you from Facebook.

Unfollowed you on Twitter.

Unsubscribed from your blog.

Written you a letter saying how disappointed they are in you.

Left your church.

Distanced themselves from you.

Gotten quiet.

This hurts even though you might act like it doesn't matter.



Your crime?

Doing what you were born to do.

What God made you to do. 

What you're supposed to be doing.

What you were born to do upsets their apple cart in some way.

Makes them uneasy.

Threatens their comfort level or their status quo.

They rant or shut you out. Sometimes they do both in rapid succession.

Either way, you feel the pain.

The root of the problem is not the fact that you're doing what you were born to do, it's that they are insecure about it for some reason.

Mind if I share three things with you that might help if you're facing this?



Take a deep breath.

Literally.


For me this comes in the form of a bike ride, or getting a cup of coffee and sitting down for a minute just to get quiet and think.

Get by yourself and just breathe and get your bearings. Sometimes you need to do that after somebody tries these immature and ridiculous tactics designed to get you to cease and desist with your God-given gifts.




Realize that you are not the root cause of people's backlash


Doing what you are born to do is always going to make somebody else uncomfortable.

Always.

I've found that often the people who lash out are those who have been too lazy to do what they're supposed to be doing, people who failed and gave up, people who lack the courage to try again, people who would rather criticize others than go for their dreams, and the list goes on.

There are also people who aren't healed who lash out. Hurting people hurt people!

Inevitably when I have opened up about my beliefs about adoption, somebody gets upset. Those who get maddest have often been those who have given up a baby, adopted a baby, had an abortion, have an adoptee in their family or work in the industry. (Yes, I said industry -- it's big business, don't let anybody fool you.)  I know I said I wasn't going to write about adoption again, and I'm breaking my own rules here so let me go quickly to number 3...

The bottom line is, it's not you they are lashing out at. It's their own unhealed self that's the issue.


Remember the Tia's


Why are you speaking up about whatever it is that you're talking or writing about?

Why do you care?

What compels you to do this in the first place?

Who are you trying to reach?

Who are you actually helping?

Remember the people, the names, the faces. 

They're worth it.

Last night after church a young lady we'll call Tia (not her real name) asked to speak to me privately. She shared with me some personal things she is going through at this time. Things not always easy to talk about. She said, "PD, can I just say that when you shared your thoughts this past week about some issues [things people actually de-friended me over] it changed my life/decisions forever? It gave me courage to talk to you tonight, and courage to get help and move forward in the right direction."

That's what it's about, friends. The Tia's of the world need you and me.

In summary:
  • Breathe
  • Shake off the backlash
  • Remember the Tia's 
 What wisdom could you add for those who have ticked people off just for being true to their call? Share in the comments here on the blog or on Facebook.

Much love,

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Don't Hate Me Because I'm Beautiful...



"...doing something beautiful for God and becoming beautiful doing it." I Timothy 2:10 (MSG)

You have something really important to do on this earth. The first purpose of your life is a personal relationship with God. That means a real everyday connection to Him. After that, He's given you something to do, something to say, something to impact the people around you. It's a beautiful thing when you discover this and move in it -- this doing exactly what God wants you to do.

Sadly, everyone will not think it's beautiful. And some will hate you for it. I'm talking about all out, ugly hate. Some may talk behind your back,while others face off with you boldly. 

I'm called to write. Specifically I know I'm called to write transparent things that others may not have the courage to. Not for shock value. Not for notoriety as nice as that is. (Just being honest!) The true reason I am called to write what I feel compelled to write is to let people know they are not alone, and to encourage. 

That's not so beautiful to everyone. I'll never forget the day I was sitting in my office here in Tampa years ago and someone in authority in an area of my life called me up and said, "Deanna, this is a difficult call to make, but I need to ask  you to remove what's on your blog today." 

What?!

I seriously thought this had to be a prank but being that the person who called is on the uptight side and not given to pranks, I knew they were serious. They went on to say that my blog was too transparent...that my blatant honesty was bringing no glory to God. That talking about some subjects openly is just not appropriate. That while everything I spoke was truth, some things are better off hidden.

Really?

Some people are not happy at all when you speak transparently about things like sexual abuse, abortion, adoption, abusive churches/ministry situations, sex in marriage, domestic abuse and many other topics that seem to be lightning rods. The truth is, someone needs to speak out openly and compassionately. To one you are beauty - to another, a beast.

Just this past week I was "de-friended" by someone who was apparently offended by a blog post and  ensuing discussion about the post on Facebook last week. I am not sorry for that, however it is sad.

Does it compel me to change directions? No. In fact it shows me I'm on the right track. 

The bottom line is, are you content to be seen by some as a beast? This appears to be essential if one is to be received as beautiful by others.

Tuesday, July 17, 2012

All Great Writers Do This!


To write well, one must also read well. 

Readers lead and leaders read. 

As busy as I am I find time to read everyday because it's just that important. I thought today I'd share some of what I'm reading lately that's been super good.

The Circle Maker by Mark Batterson
I'm into prayer - big time, as anybody who knows me knows! And just when you've thought you've heard it all on prayer...well, you haven't. And Mark Batterson is here to prove it. You need this book. You really, really need this book. Get it. Now.

Thin Places by Mary DeMuth
I'm a huge Mary DeMuth fan. I recommend anything she writes. This is her memoir and boy is it good. Makes me appreciate everything else she writes so much more! Thank you Jesus, for healing Mary DeMuth of all the stuff she's been through so she can write and change all the lives she's changing including mine!

You Are a Writer (So Start Acting Like One) by Jeff Goins
Jeff Goins is such a nice guy, you just can't be jealous or mad at him for all his wild success. I love this guy. You know what I love about him most? He really helps people. He answers emails from people like me. Repeatedly. He had made the big time, but he is the real deal. And he cares. I'm a huge Jeff fan. 

Ernest Hemingway On Writing (compiled by Larry W. Phillips)
I love this book just to get the inside scoop on Hemingway's thoughts on being a writer. It's fascinating to get his insights. 

Microstyle: The Art of Writing Little by Christopher Johnson
Recommended to me by my friend Rich Tatum. He never steers you wrong on a book. This book is hard for me to digest as it's a challenge for me to write microstyle. Maybe that's why Rich suggested it! It's stretching me and I like to be stretched. 

I would recommend any of these books for your personal library. Enjoy!

Monday, July 16, 2012

Why Many People and Organizations Will Never Move Forward


You need to change.

I need to change.

Big time!


The sooner we realize this, the better off we'll both be.

I'm amazed at the people, especially leaders, who don't seem interested in examining what in them or about them needs to change. They are, unfortunately, plentiful.

 I understand not wanting to examine oneself or wanting to change - it's not always pleasant. But for those who grow, it's essential.

I met a good friend of mine for breakfast this morning before work, and we spoke of leadership health and the reluctance people have to look within and see truth. Healthy leaders all do this as well as healthy organizations. Ironically enough where I'm at in reading the word today is I John 1 and it says, "If we claim to be without sin. we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us...if we claim we have not sinned we make him out to be a liar and his word has no place in our lives." (vs. 8 and 10)

The longer we dig our heels in and refuse to admit our sins, mistakes, faults, oversights, shortcomings or whatever else you want to call them...the longer we can count on a lack of real progress.

Sunday, July 15, 2012

Weekend Potpourri

So the weekend is coming to a close...my sunset bike ride is over and I'm ready to take a bath and get in my jammies and snuggle with the man. Now that's the life!

Aside from church ministry and coaching, I've been spending large amounts of time putting the finishing touches on my upcoming e-book (to be released on Kindle), and a book proposal that's getting ready to go out.

We had a great service at church today -- the worship team/frontline/choir was absolutely rockin' the place. For a moment there I thought we were gonna be raptured! I just couldn't be more proud of our amazing team.

Larry and Dustin are prepping to take a huge chartered busload full of our Celebration Church teens to camp tomorrow.   Our youth group has absolutely exploded. This is what our youth are traveling to and from camp in this year:


God has been so good to us! I can hardly wait for them to get back. If we thought we were gonna be raptured this week in service what in the world will next Sunday be like with these kids coming back from camp even more fired up than when they went?

It is such a blessing to serve the Lord and His people. Just sayin'.


Saturday, July 14, 2012

3 Posts You Need to Read


This blog is a place to share my thoughts, and at the same time it's not all about me. I try to make it about whoever reads here and how I can help them in some way. And usually it's an outflow of whatever I'm reading, thinking about, or talking about with friends.

Today in the spirit of that I'd like to share with you three posts by other people that have really stopped me in my tracks the past week.

Enjoy.

Why Your Idea Isn't Spreading 
Every leader, business owner, pastor, or person who seeks to be an influencer in ANY way seriously needs to read this!!! This post has become my new checklist of things to personally watch out for, so that I don't become off track/irrelevant/or just flat out ungodly in my leadership style.

How I Went to Prison 
The story of Jeremy Myers, a former pastor who was fired from a Christian non-profit in Dallas, and lost everything but his wife and kids in the aftermath.  His crime???  READING BOOKS. Seriously. This is an incredible story, shared by my friend, Jeff Goins.

Paterno Won Sweeter Deal Even As Scandal Played Out
There are really no words to describe the insanity of the details this article contains. If you haven't already been shocked out of your wits by the Penn State scandal, this is the topper. A fascinating study in FAILED LEADERSHIP.  Let's all take note of what NOT TO DO.


Friday, July 13, 2012

One Ingredient That is Essential to Produce Quality Work
(Are You Missing It?)

Most of what I do in my role as a career coach is over the phone and online. Inevitably during resume work, I have to tell a client, "okay, I'm just letting you know, when I get quiet, I'm very much still here. I am working hard on your behalf, as you'll see in a moment..."

After a few minutes they'll say, "Are you still there?"

"Yep, sure am..." I reply. "I'm sending something to your e-mail right now..."

And in a few moments they read something I just wrote based upon what we've been talking about and they respond with something like, "Wow. Um, just wow...that's really good. You've just truthfully stated my experience and accomplishments in a way that makes me sound like I should be running for president or something..." 

Mission accomplished!

There are so many thoughts running in my head right now, so much I'm processing, much of which I am writing. I'm putting the finishing touches on my e-book ready to release in a few weeks. And, writing for some other publications. And, spending quiet time developing all that and more.

Quiet time is very much a requirement to produce anything of quality. 

 If you're not getting quiet, or anyone's not asking you, "hey, are you still there??" maybe you're missing the one ingredient that it definitely takes to get you over the top with whatever you're working on.